I arrive at the property on time.
I knock on the door 5 minutes after.
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I must arrive everywhere 15 minutes early, minimum, or I die.
I blame my mother for terrorizing into me that being 15 minutes early is on time, and on time is late.
My husband hates it, but he accepts it over me vomiting from stress.
We also do not go to parties. So it's moot.
First day at my active duty station in the air force I show up 10 min early and some e5 staff sergeant tells me I'm late and proceeds to tell me if I'm not 15 min early I'm already 5 min late...fun times
Hmmm...her father was in the military. Maybe this is where she got it!
Yeah on time. If they wanted to meet later then they would have said later. I could help them set up or whatever.
As close to exactly the start time as possible. That's when I was asked to arrive, so that's what I'll do. While I'm with many folks here in wanting to arrive early to avoid being late, parties are the one exception. I think it is more rude to be early to a party than late unless it is at a public venue where I can hang out while waiting without imposing on the host.
Depends on the party. I always arrive precisely when I plan to, haha.
Are you a wizard? 🧙
I'm Autistic so I never got the memo that you should arrive late to a party like most folks apparently do because of unwritten rule bullshit
That backfired several times and I would stand around or pace awkwardly
So I just don't go or if I have to go I show like a half hour late.
I arrive slightly early (5 mins early) because I always make up an excuse to leave early.
My pet peeve is when there's a party agenda (6pm arrival, 7pm food) and if it's 730pm and food still hasnt been served, I can kindly remind the host that I have to leave by 8pm.
When I attended parties in my 20s, this was a extremely common issue. But as I get older and have a significantly more mature group of friends, Im starting to not have to use my "leave early" excuse as frequently.
If I know most everyone there, especially the host, I show up on time.
If I don't know most of the people going, I show up like 30 min late so the social lubricant can start flowing a bit before they get introduced to their new best friend.
15-20 minutes late. Gives enough time for a few other people to show up, and 8/10 times the hosts will still be frantically running around trying to finish preparing if you show up right on time.
I show up fashionably late with extra ice, snacks and drinks. But I stay late and help clean up.
It's always nice to have someone coming a bit later that you can call and have pick something up that you forgot about.
I'm not fond of parties myself, but when I go to one, I get there on time, wait for the food, then leave with a full stomach. I may wait for leftovers to take home, but it depends. All I care about is the free food.
I love party folks like you. It's very clear why you're here and I will do my best to accommodate.
It's the folks who go to parties and feel like they have to create a memory, drink heavily, or hook up with some stranger that bothers me.
When I feel like it during the slotted start and finish time. I don't make a big deal out of it really.