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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.


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[–] Saoirse@hexbear.net 21 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Hello mega thread I got gay married. I am now in a rather nice municipal records office submitting my papers so that the stinking landlord legally cannot stop me from moving in with my partner.

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[–] milk_thief@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

I was absent for a few weeks. Sure glad decades didn't happen in the meantime clueless

[–] Mousy@hexbear.net 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Sick of being constantly ignored by my friend whenever i try to reach out

[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago

that sucks, at least you have us hexbears

reach out whenever!

[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Trans ppl r cool, so says the happy puppy

[–] bureaucat@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (5 children)

We say so as well :catgirl-heart:

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 15 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

unchecked transphobia! at the Irish web fishing server:( just got the game and now I never wanna play it again. im prejudiced against the country folk on this island ngl. fuck me for wandering out of overtly communist online spaces for like, 20 minutes i guess lol. it's bad out there.

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[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 12 points 5 days ago (10 children)
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[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 16 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Hear me out; what if we just gave everyone with treatment resistant depression and dissociation a taste of HRT and saw what happened?

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)

noooooooooooooooooooo we have to waste threee years of everyone's time doing diagnosis, just give everyone a spike of the dumb bitch juice and it'll weed out the trans people by like 95% accuracy

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[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 16 points 5 days ago (2 children)

i had black depression with suicidal ideation for a decade+ and never in a million years thought it was gender related. the magnetic brain stimulation and ketamine were the only two things left to try.

i was talking to my trauma therapist about a skirt i found at the thrift store and wanted to wear (egg much?) and they encouraged me and the first time i wore my skirt with painted toes and got gender euphoria it blew me away.

A month later my egg cracked while listening to chapel roan. I have now been about 5 months depression free and only have had suicidal ideation twice in that time.

I love myself limitlessly now. I had a visit with my pcp yesterday and they are soooo proud of my progress.

It might not be for everyone but it sure worked for me :)

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

Heartwarming :3

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 5 days ago

Unironically not a bad idea.

Or at least you could mention that being trans is a thing even once (down with the cis).

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Haven't painted my nails in a bit and for the best, got an interview tomorrow and I gotta look not too hot to intimidate the interviewers. I'll give it a month if I get in to secure my position before I get back to it, maybe finally get some high end nail polish and not the dollar store stuff I find.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Getting some routine blood work done, and I asked the doctor to check my T levels.

He asked if I'm "having problems in the male department"

Why, yes, doctor, you might say I am catgirl-smug

[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago (7 children)

Doggirls rule, catgirls drool doggirl-smug

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I've been a catgirl for days you can't do this to me

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago

awwrrruff!!!

ouppies can drool too tho :3 is fun

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (2 children)

family shit, mental health breakthrough/down, sui baiting, raging, extremely pitch black bile vomiting bitter lizard brain fight or flight rage

spoiler no I'm serious, this is the angriest and most hateful screaming into the void shit I've ever posted and you'll probably regret reading it

okay, last warningfinally snapped and fucking lost it at my piece of shit worthless disgusting scumbag dad after he got aggro at me about me going to recycle a years worth of inhaler boxes he had dumped everywhere on the floor of his disgusting shithole bathroom after I FUCKING CLEANED IT FOR HIM AT THE ONLY OPPORTUNITY I HAD TO WHEN HE LEFT HIS HOUSE TO BUY BOOZE (THE ONLY FUCKING REASON HE'LL PUT PANTS ON AND LEAVE THE HOUSE, BUT STILL REFUSES TO SHOWER FOR THREE FUCKING WEEKS) and I kinda blacked out from adrenaline and don't remember what I said verbatim, but it definitely involved telling him he's a disgusting decrepit braindead miserable piece of shit that's done nothing but unsuccessfully attempt to drink himself to death for 15 years, because he can't even do that right and just expects his family to put up with him, buy him more booze and take him to urgent care when he falls

Somehow managed to keep myself from getting physical with him other than spitting in his face and telling him everyone that's actually still in his life, ESPECIALLY him, would be immeasurably happier if he fucking killed himself and quit wasting everyone's fucking time making himself and everyone that has to actually interact with him sick

Stormed out and beat the absolute shit out of his barbecue with a baseball bat and I think I might have broken a bone in my hand and hacked the fuck out of a maple sapling out front with a machete

I'm really glad the neighbors weren't home

spoiler self harm I'm gonna go buy a pack of smokes, chainsmoke until I'm sick, resist the urge to put them out on myself, then go to the gym and test one rep maxes before all the adrenaline wears out and I crash :::

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

(I think I'm on top of my own brain enough that I'm not in any danger to myself, this ain't my first rodeo.howdy-skull and I've removed myself from anything that could escalate)

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (2 children)

More dream posting:

I had a dream that I came out to my mom, and she reacted very positively. She asked me to dress up and go see a musical with her. I didn't have the heart to tell her that musicals are really more gay coded, but she was trying to be supportive lol.

Anyway, we went because she likes musicals even though I hate them haha

This is a stark contrast to last week's dream where she was super transphobic. A welcome change.

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[–] naom3@hexbear.net 21 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

My tits really hurt. I guess this is just something that happens when I get a cold now

Edit: god this really feels like a monkey’s paw curse. Jokes on them though cause I can take it madeline-stare

Edit 2: KITTY NO!! DONT STEP THERE!!! kitty-cri-screm

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[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 13 points 6 days ago (2 children)

another serious storm expected, and we're usually cut off for a few days to weeks when this happens. managed to go down for supplies, food, gasoline in case we lose power again, pick up medication, take medication in order to have vaguely functioning body, and make preparations for the storm. would have liked to be able to fix the roof leaks before the storm but unfortunately that was beyond my capabilities. but i got a whole bunch of dry wood before it all gets rained on so we should be able to stay warm and dryish.

was a p successful day, especially considering how hard everything has been recently. am proud of myself. and resting by the fire and keeping warm :3

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago (5 children)

how the fuck did the shipping get my dead name printed on the label of my package? this is bullshit wtf

at least i got my new shoes now. hopefully they fit

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 18 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Feeling so much queer joy today πŸ’–

I'm SO glad I made it passed the initial excitement phase. I was so worried that I was only doing this because it's exciting, and, once the excitement wore off, I wouldn't be interested anymore.

But the absolute normalcy of my gender is SO much better. When I can present fem in front of my friends and hear my pronouns just as a normal fact of life rather than something I have to build up courage for, it just HITS.

The more I come out of the closet, the more real it all feels, and doubts start melting away. I honestly can't wait to try E!

kel-bliss

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[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 15 points 6 days ago (12 children)

Goodnight comrades, here's part of the code of conduct that i think about alot

Be aware of your own enjoyment of the site.

  • If you find yourself no longer having fun, do something else. There are many different comms on Hexbear, and many different ways to shitpost and have fun.
  • If the site as a whole is just not cutting it for you, take a break. We'll still be here when you get back. Nothing should compel you to stay.

https://hexbear.net/code_of_conduct

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 19 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Hello new trans mega kirby-wave

I went for two different walks today and my legs are feeling p o w e r f u l

Night walk had a pretty moon view hex-moon ✨

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (5 children)

girl facts I wish I knew sooner: apparently the longer your hair gets, the LESS often you're supposed to wash it wtf. i thought i was supposed to wash it more. this probably explains why my hair is always going fucking everywhere

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago (4 children)

this is something people have different takes on but I'm in the boat of it's generally better to aim to not overwash your hair regardless of length. i shampoo around once a week, washing my scalp with just water or cowashing (conditioner only) keeps it happy in between. i would think shampooing every 2 or 3 days is excessive regardless of length. when you're trying to wash less there can be an adjustment period where you're a lil greasy but your oils adjust to the new routine and it's totally worth it.

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (5 children)

Can someone tell me to but the cute dresses I've been putting off because of anxiety?

BUY THE DRESSES YOU WILL THANK YOURSELF LATER FR FR

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[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I texted a couple of my local trans friends about having some sort of friendsgiving thing the weekend before regular thanksgiving. I used to get invited to those in college and I miss them. Kind of to my surprise, everyone was really excited and like 3 people volunteered to help cook. I'm honestly so happy I have queer friends who I can recreate college with lol.

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Don’t let British people convince you they are smarter than Americans, they may be worse

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

as an irish person i have to say i have a bit more patience for yanks. ime brits tend to be more chauvinistic and less likely to admit the evilness of their own country. lots of them are crypto-unionists too. definitely more prejudiced against them

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 16 points 6 days ago (3 children)

transness will continue until morale improves bridget-vibe

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[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (3 children)

If this account still exists and is functional, any chance it could host a c/traa megathread?

would be funny

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 18 points 6 days ago (7 children)

HRT MomentsJust gave a woman her first injection! She has been on pills for a while, and wanted to give injections a try. I love doing this for my trans comrades. It is really intimate and fun.
screm-pretty trans-heart

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[–] morte@hexbear.net 25 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Ughhhhhhhhh the waitress at the cafe im at is a super fucking cute trans girl. I look like dogshit right now and i dont know how to talk to people irl aghhhhh

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[–] Anvil_Lavigne@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

it's been a wild ride huh what-the-hell

fairly glad i was on a break lol

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[–] pooh@hexbear.net 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Starting a new life in a new place and it’s going better than expected. Kindly issue is that I’m scared something will happen to sabotage it, like it’s too good to be true, or something I don’t really deserve. I guess there’s not much else I can do besides try to stop catastrophizing and make the best of it while I can.

Anyways, I know it’s been a stressful time for everyone with the elections and the struggle sessions on the site haven’t helped much. How’s everyone holding up?

Also on the topic of the election outcome, we had a good discussion in tracha (which you should all join btw, link in sidebar) about options for trans people in the US wanting to leave. I believe Canada lets in USians for up to 6 months with just a birth certificate and photo ID, which could be useful.

Anyone else have any good knowledge or strategies they might want to share for queer people who feel under threat?

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 16 points 6 days ago (1 children)

misgendering, dysphoriaUgh I just misgendered myself and it sucks and now I'm conceptualizing myself as a dude which is frustrating. I want to go back :(

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago (14 children)

Alright y'all I caved...

Steam has been installed (thankfully Asahi has a steam build, almost failed to consider that), and I'm getting on the Webfishing grind. Should also probably play through Disco Elysium when I get the time, since I have it kitsuragi-dance

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[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

Uber should pay me a million dollars for my idea Uber Rainbow that is Uber Black for LGBT as you upcharges queers under the guise of increased security (which they won’t do)

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[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (13 children)

I kinda wanted to ask for pronouns to be added but it feels like a bad time with the ongoing upheaval

edit: If any kind soul would like to contact the pronoun wizard and add sae/saer to the list I'd really appreciate it

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[–] Mousy@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago (2 children)
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