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[-] dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 hours ago

I reckon the last bad thing that happened to my ancestors was the civil war.

The English civil war.

[-] LordGimp@lemm.ee 8 points 23 hours ago

As a guy who worked with military a bunch, they also have panic attacks when they forget their vape at home. Lmfao old philipino guy i worked with was a vet and threw a 2 day hissy fit because he lost his vape at home and only quit when he got a new one from the base commissary.

[-] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 11 points 1 day ago

Shaming addicts for going into withdrawal isn't much different from shaming vets having ptsd

Well, we're doing both so it's okay.
/s

It IS really hard to understand what someone is going through if you've never been in that position yourself, and even then it's hard.

On the other hand: You never know when to attribute a behavior from someone to malice. And it's also very easy to stop working on oneself when not pressured in doing so, especially for addicts.

So yeah, a bit of banter is necessary.

[-] VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago

Right, and their unresolved ptsd lead to them not being the best parents which was part of a cycle that led to you.

Even without bad parenting, ptsd can be inherited through epigenetics

[-] CazzoneArrapante@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago

Ugh, fuck this shit. Just ask boomers and Gen X how life was for them compared to us.

[-] gsfraley@lemmy.world 104 points 1 day ago

I mean, I don't think we should look to the past for mental stability. Alcoholism, violence, and spousal/domestic abuse are all examples of things that were way more common and borderline-accepted back then. I'd rather someone's reaction to stress be a panic attack rather than beating their children.

[-] Themaskofz@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago

I think it’s more about acknowledging that a lot of people are hyperbolic so they can be perceived as a victim. Anxiety is a real thing but some people act like it’s the peak of human suffrage for attention, and that is worthy of laughing at, not the anxiety itself

[-] rand_alpha19@moist.catsweat.com 19 points 1 day ago

human suffrage

I think you may want to look into what suffrage is. :B

[-] celsiustimeline@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 23 hours ago

I'm always reminded of the classic The Man Show bit where Jimmy and Adam go out to Venice Beach and ask people to support the cause of Ending Women's Suffrage.

[-] 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 day ago

Suffrage is one of those English language-internal false friends - you could easily confuse it with a personalised state of suffering, especially if English isn't your first language (my bigger anxieties around this is finding out a word I used extensively has a different meaning than I thought)...

[-] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

internet discourse is so attention-seeking, contentious and unempathetic that I feel like it's fostered a culture where people expressing hurt are routinely interrogated and doubted just in case they're seeking undeserved attention. (because some people do!)

so, people are caught between a rock and a hard place. They can be honest about what burdens them in a way that leaves room for critique, and take the emotional damage that comes from the interrogation of their experiences. or they find extreme, bulletproof-sounding, "nobody could be ok under these circumstances" ways of putting their problems that aren't in line with reality.

The former is honest but puts you at emotional risk when you're already vulnerable. The latter is inauthentic but does grant the solidarity and support they're seeking in the first place. I can't really blame the people who pick door #2, especially when this decision is conditioned over long periods of social media use. It's also in line with catastrophization, a common distortion many of us experience already.

notably, this has always been a common problem with how PTSD is understood, specifically complex trauma. many people discount their own trauma because it's not the typical "got my limb blown off" image of trauma and they'll occasionally be attacked for claiming they are traumatized. So they find more extreme ways to put their trauma that do get them the support they're seeking. (and need!)

I don't know what the solution to any of this is but I do feel it comes from a real place and I put the blame more on social media than the individuals, despite how annoyed I can get with people when I see it.

[-] chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

"Pahshaw! Don't listen to Sally over there, she's just having her woman time. When we get home, I'll give her a good knock about and she'll remember herself. Now, where's my paint thinner? I have a frightful thirst."

[-] BakerBagel@midwest.social 19 points 1 day ago

Their government made sure to keep those men loaded up on cigarettes and booze because it was the only way to keep those soldiers fighting. Nicotine is a hell of a drug

[-] Sylvartas@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago

Can confirm, grandpa was a WW2 vet (+ a few of the postcolonial wars that followed). He used to say that soldiers morale hinges on wine and cigarettes.

Also he died of lung cancer after surviving all that shit, including being a POW for 4+ years in extremely shitty conditions in Cambodia

[-] milicent_bystandr@lemm.ee 13 points 1 day ago

Ancestors: "We're glad you can have a more peaceful future, where your great stress is cherry capes, not bombs in trenches."

[-] SlopppyEngineer@lemmy.world 46 points 1 day ago

That kind of stuff always reminds me of an episode from a show about rich people. They showed a rich mother organizing a birthday party for her toddler that was ridiculously fancy and having a complete meltdown because some napkins were another shade of pink. That's the worst that life has ever given her, a different shade of napkins.

[-] SARGE@startrek.website 19 points 1 day ago

My sister in law had a meltdown last thanksgiving that included screaming at her husband, and storming off to her bathroom to spend the rest of the day (up until food, and then she demanded someone bring her a specific selection on a plate) in a jacuzzi tub. The whole house reverberate when it's on, it's quite annoying.

The absolutely soul-crushing, terrible, impossibly bad thing that happened?

Her husband grabbed the wrong shade of blue curtains from the closet, and she had to wait an extra 90 seconds to put them up. Legitimately don't understand how he's stayed married to her for 15 years. Apparently she's always been like this to him over the smallest bullshit.

[-] zurohki@aussie.zone 6 points 1 day ago

Nobody went and flipped the breaker for the jacuzzi? People like that obviously need practice dealing with inconveniences.

[-] AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today 7 points 1 day ago

It's giving Schitt's Creek

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 2 points 1 day ago

Have you ever interacted with a toddler in real life? They freak the fuck out about weird shit. That's just what they do. They're insane. Doesn't mean they're spoiled brats. Just means they're normal toddlers...

The adult mother was having a freak out, not the toddler.

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Oh. Well in that case she sounds like an insane person. Nevermind.

[-] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago

Plot twist: the mother was 4 years old

[-] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 20 points 1 day ago

I think the best option would be to get off of nicotine products. They aren't exactly good for you.

[-] quicksand@lemmy.world -2 points 1 day ago

They aren't exactly good for you.

Or bad necessarily. From my understanding nicotine is similar to caffeine in that regard. The harm is in the other stuff you're pumping into your lungs

[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 day ago

Addiction is bad for you, and nicotine is really addictive if you let it rewire your brain (it is a dopamine agonist).

I stopped drinking coffee over a week. It took me over a decade to drop nicotine.

[-] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah Nicotine is also very bad for your mental health long term. You become so hooked on it that you literally can not be happy without it.

[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 day ago

It's such a pacifier. And with vaping, you can get a little hit almost no matter where you are - don't even need to step out for a break

[-] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 2 points 23 hours ago

It actually makes a lot of sense from a business. The vaping companies want you to live a long life hopelessly addicted.

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago

Isn’t the idea that previous generations suffered so that future generations don’t have to? If my kids never have to know a life where their parents worked such long hours away from home that they became latch key kids, then society and I have done our jobs. Right?

[-] Wanderer@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago

Yea. But now our major towns and cities are getting much worse.

Lots of countries seem to be going in reverse and have been in reverse for decades.

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Something something boomers/silent generation bad though.

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I was looking at it from the other way around, where any generation looks down on the next generation because they’re soft because my generation had/did XYZ; not limited to boomers or their silent generation.

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 5 points 1 day ago

Yea for sure. It is the way of the world to think that your generation is superior to the next. I'm sure Boomers thought Gen X were a bunch of pussies playing DnD with their fiends and playing arcade games. Now Gen X looks hard af compared to Millenials, who look hard compared to Zoomers. It's just life lol.

[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago

It must be so weird for Drew (the guy from Giant Bomb in the meme) to browse the internet every day lol!

[-] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Okay but I realy think that you should definitely not vape, at all.

P.S.: fixed grammar for "definitely"

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago

I think the majority of vapers are probably aware of that.

[-] Maggoty@lemmy.world 0 points 22 hours ago

Uhhhh no. From someone who's been mortared in the Hesco barriers, that's not how that works. Stress stacks, and that was obviously the last straw. So what else is going on in their life? Do they have an anxiety condition that needs treatment? Do they deal with a boss that gaslights and threatens them? Did they have a car accident recently?

Unless you know their life intimately you don't judge.

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