How are "Dems in charge" when Republicans have had a majority in both Congress and the Supreme Court for years now? For half the time there was also a Republican President.
It is crazy to me that when the GOP essentially ran the government and still did absolutely nothing for this country and didn't follow through on anything they blamed the "deep state" and people still bought into it.
Just do in what I do. Don't join meetings most of the time. That way when you do it is noteworthy to the meeting stakeholder.
Yeah sure my manglers through the years try to have 'the talk' but after awhile of training them via sheer apathy they shut the fuck up.
I solve complex problems, get my tasks done, I'm independent and I stay busy because I'll get bored. Most meetings could just be an email. There's no real collaboration except managers or scrum masters asking what your blockers are but not actually doing anything about it. If I think the meeting will be a waste of my time I just don't show up.