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Getting closer to marriage and approaching your full earthly potential are the same thing (assuming they're done perfectly) (lemmy.ca)
submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by dullbananas@lemmy.ca to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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Edit: "getting closer to marriage" is about the whole journey starting from being completely single

Edit: if this shower thought is too confusing to be useful to you, then here is a quote that gives some of the same guidance, is simpler, less philosophical, but less broad: “Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come” - Mario Quintana

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[–] MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 30 points 5 months ago (1 children)

In order to comment on this I ask that you please give me a clear and concise definition of what "your full earthly potential" is supposed to mean because I have no idea what you're talking about

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 23 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

This assume nobody can reach their potential unless they marry. And that's bogus. Anyone can reach their potential without a partner. Having a family is irrelevant to your human potential and self-actualization. Even most religion would disagree with your idea considering most use chastity and isolation as a means to reach enlightenment.

[–] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 20 points 5 months ago

Me, a divorced person:

[–] AdamEatsAss@lemmy.world 20 points 5 months ago

Define "earthly potential." Genghis Khan killed like 40 million people. Dude had like 5 official wives and an unknown amount of concubines.

[–] Master@lemm.ee 13 points 5 months ago

Im just glad you are showering. Its a start.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Can you explain? I can't make any sense of this.

[–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Haha. Marriage is just the beginning. Not anywhere close to actualization. And if you have kids, you'll realize you're still at the beginning.

[–] PRUSSIA_x86@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I want whatever you're on

[–] dullbananas@lemmy.ca 3 points 5 months ago

The autism spectrum.

Actually the main thing I'm on is a great adventure that started less than a year ago in which I built social confidence from scratch and recently figured out how to have balanced focuses when it comes to pursuing girls while still working hard enough to get out of my comfort zone.

[–] A_A@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

There are many maximums in different types of potential for human beings :

  • just after birth, before 1-year-old, we are at a maximum in terms of number of neurons
  • there is another maximum in term of wisdom in the 50 to 80 years range.

This maximum you hint about would be in terms of reproductive potential and attractiveness.