Set one alarm you actually need to wake up for and never snooze.
You're playing with fire if you set alarms that are okay to snooze, because one day you're gonna snooze them all
this post was submitted on 03 Dec 2023
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Fun fact. Clocks used to have a limit at 2 hours (unsure if it's still that way). If you snoozed for 2 hours after the original alarm, it stopped alarming altogether. Ask me how I know.
Gotta snooze ‘em all
I’ll see my way out
Happens, or sleeping through the alarm.
I no longer snooze now. I set the alarm to the latest time I can get up and still be on time. Either I wake up on my own or the alarm forces me out of bed.
Snoozing is stupid, you already interrupt your sleep for nothing. I'd much rather maximize uninterrupted sleeping time.
I mean, on paper snoozing sounds stupid, but it feels so fucking good. Hard to stop something that feels good like that. Falling asleep at night feels ok, but falling back asleep in the morning after you've just been woken up feels so goddamn good. I don't know what heroin feels like, but I wonder if it's like that.
OP, I haven't done that lately, but I used to be a person who would chronically turn off their alarm while still half asleep. I wouldn't remember doing it and I would wake up late because my alarm was shut off. I tried so many different tricks to help me get up on time and I finally figured out what works for me personally...
What has worked for me for years now is to have two devices with an alarm. The device physically closest to me (my phone, often on the nightstand or in the bed itself) will ring first. As a failsafe in case I turn it off without realizing, I have a second device with an alarm across the room from me that will ring some time after the first. Because you have to get up to shut off the second alarm, it's much harder to do it while half asleep. And because you already woke up at least briefly to shut off the first alarm, you're more likely to hear the second one and not miss it because it's too far away.
I figured this out after years and years of being a frustratingly chronically late person in high school and college. Once I was an hour or two late to a freaking final exam in college and the professor was nice enough to still let me take the exam. It's been a struggle, but after employing my current method, I haven't had many issues.
but falling back asleep in the morning after you’ve just been woken up feels so goddamn good.
You might not be getting enough sleep.
Or they're just not a morning person. If I have to get up early, it doesn't matter how long I have slept, even after 10 hours, I have to be up at almost an hour before I don't feel like I would rather go back to sleep again.
Nope. It doesn't at all matter how much sleep I've gotten. Even if I consistently get 9 hours of sleep every day for the entire week, it still feels so good to snooze. Obviously it's easier to not snooze as much if I've slept more, but it still feels fucking amazing.
It has always been this way for me, no matter how much or how little sleep I get. It's wild to me if you don't experience this.
I experience this all the time, and it indeed feels amazing. It doesn't seem to be related to the number of hours I've slept, or to cumulative sleep deprivation. Going back to sleep after hitting snooze is just blissful.
I woke up this morning three hours after my alarm (work started quite late so I was fine in that regard), with my phone sitting next to me (I keep it across the room). What’s more is I also had a salt shaker next to me, and a big pile of salt underneath me.
So apparently this happened:
- My alarm went off
- I got up, went across the room, and turned it off
- Then I went to the kitchen and got a salt shaker
- Then I shook that shaker over my bed for a long time. Or, I unscrewed the cap and poured the salt then screwed the cap back on. It was a lot of salt. Like a couple tablespoons at least
- Went back to sleep
Do you have a carbon monoxide detector?
Yeah, this one is worrying
I’ve got some kind of detector on my ceiling. Unsure if it’s for smoke or carbon monoxide
On the ceiling is smoke detector. Carbon monoxide detectors go down low.
Then no I don’t think I do. I’m not having any headaches, and no other weird changes. I might get a CO detector anyway though.
Some are integrated in smoke detectors. Down low is a myth based on many detectors using an outlet. CO is lighter than air but widely disperses in a room.
I dunno. Maybe they are just a sleepwalker. My brothers have done weird things in their sleep before.
Holy fuck what if I have bedbugs?
Or something was standing next to your bed while you were asleep and thought that some salt would make you taste better.
Dear god that’s terrifying. Am I not tasty enough??
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Are you on Ambien? I heard that shit can make you wake up in a Walmart with your car keys in your hand when you went to sleep in your bed.
Sounds like you need to see a doctor
That used to happen to me - even dismissing the alarm. I now force myself to scan a QR code in another room to dismiss it so I'm not late for work.
I tried using weird apps like this. But I find that my dumb lizard morning brain just gets confused at why the loud device won't stop screaming at me. I briefly tried apps that made you solve a simple puzzle to dismiss the alarm, but my half asleep self didn't understand what was going on and would just hold down the power button to turn off the phone and still be late.
After years and years of trying different methods, what works for me is having two alarms.
The first alarm is physically very close to you. It rings first. This alarm is easy for you to notice and wake up to, but also easy to shut off if you're half asleep. That's fine because it's only the first attack.
The second alarm is across the room from you. It rings second, some time after the first one has gone off. This is your failsafe alarm in the event you accidentally snooze too much or turn the first alarm off. Because it's far away from you, it wakes you up a bit to walk across the room so you're more aware of what you're doing. Also because it's far away from you, if you try to use it as the first alarm instead of the second, you might not hear it and not wake up to it. This is why it is the second alarm and not the first or only alarm. You've already woken up once with the first alarm, so you're more likely to still be able to hear this one and wake up.
I had chronic and significant issues with shutting off my alarm when half asleep all throughout my teenage years and early twenties to the point where it threatened and even sometimes affected my grades. This is the method that finally worked for me and I have rarely had an issue since.
Yep. I have several times dismissed an alarm instead of snoozing it. My tired brain gets so confused. I don't know what either word means, and I know I'm supposed to pick one of them and I end up picking dismiss, even though snooze is green and dismiss is red. I just can't figure out what I'm supposed to do and then fall back asleep. I have slept through exams and interviews in this way :(
I jus know my half awake self would just turn the whole thing off.
also try changing your alarm tone or turning off snooze. A lot of device allow that. I change my alarm sound when I noticed that happening
Oh, so instead of snoozing, the only option becomes "turn off"? That won't end well.
Don't mean to jump on you, and I'm sure that would work for some. But for those who are past that point... Less so.
My friend uses three separate alarms because the smartphones let you do this. For her they are not just wake up alarms but also the key points of the morning- first one: you have 10 minutes to get out of bed. Second one: make the cuppa and get to the shower. Third one: now the work related messages and calls may start.
most devices have the turn off right next to snooze anyway, but yea I can see where that might be counterproductive if they are sleeping through it. They do make puzzle alarms as well for that that require you to do something in order to turn it off, that might be a better solution
yeah, i've got one where it puts some colored circles in a grid and tells you to tap all the green ones or whatever. i tried the answer-a-math-problem ones, but i'm really dumb before coffee.
I go to sleep the same time every night and my alarm is set for the same time every day. My body is so used to this routine that vast majority of the time I wake up right before my alarm goes off. Regardless of how I feel I always get up. The longer I do this the easier it is for me.
The times where I actually need an alarm is when I am doing something out of the ordinary, like staying up late.
If you have issues waking up on time then maybe it has something to do with your routine. My body seems to work a lot better when I am in a routine. If you’re always goes to sleep at different times each night then that will break any routine.
Oh, my alarm doesn't have a snooze function. I'm not responsible enough for that kind of power.
Not having a snooze button at all seems even more dangerous. Have you not inadvertently shut it off and went back to sleep???
I used to do stuff like that all the time (and still do on occasion), so I have a second backup alarm across the room that keeps me in tow.
Yep. I just woke up, it's nearly 13:00, and I have no idea how I slept this late. I went to bed at midnight. I set the alarm for nine!
What do you mean "no longer"?
Suggestion that did a lot for me. Get cheap smart lights or at least a smart outlet. Turn them on before your alarm (gradual ramp up is ideal, but just turning on is better than nothing). It makes mornings a lot less brutal.
I suppose that I have had some kind of alarm with a snooze capability since about 1980. When I first had a clock radio with that option I recall trying it a couple of times, but I have never touched it since. I was just lying there waiting for it to go off again. Nothing in any way restful about that.
I have a friend who sets his alarms one hour earleir just for snoozing.
I hve alarn for 6m at workdays. I regularly remember snoozing for the first time around 6:30-6:45
Yeah it happened to me multiple time, also once or twice I shut the alarm entirely subconsciously and I woke up 1-2 hours late.
Now I try to wake up with the sun and it seems to be working better than other techniques
Where I live the sun doesn’t come up til 8am this time of year. I start work an hour before that.
Summertime the sun comes up around 5am, and I love waking up with it. Winter is much more difficult.
At least its there in the morning, here it comes up between 03:00 and never depending on the time of year.
All the fucking time!
I had a run of several good years where I was able to get out of bed after a few alarms.
Prior to that, and recently, it's been "automatic behavior" that is damnably difficult to control.
Context, significant sleep disorder here - but setting that aside, you're not alone.
Stuff I tried and discarded, but that might work for you
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$friend please call me until I am awake enough to have a conversation
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Boss, please ping me a ton of times in the AM (requires understanding and/or them to know what's going on)
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Alarms all over the damn house .
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Alarms locked inside of analog safes and other related silliness.
What worked ultimately, was a comb of meds and an amazing partner who helped support me through the various diagnoses, and etc. that came with it.
Sometimes, I still bump it be an hour, but I know that I did it. From where I sit, the idea of having no recollection of the 7:00 that you reset, but waking up for the 7:10, well that sounds likely to degrade going forward - and probably at the worst moment possible.
Last week was positively brutal to me, for a bunch of reasons. As the week wore on, my loving and persistent partner is the only reason I made it to the office. Two things net saved my tail - meds made a real difference once we sorted doses and such, but I would absolutely NOT be a productive professional today if not for my wife.
Some days, she just nudges when she hears the alarm go off. Some days, she has to hit me with a brick to get my attention. Neither is ideal, of course, but a supportive and loving person who is right there and knows how hard to shove you; and what to do when shoving that hard isn't enough. is life changing.
I know what works for me, open to a chat, might give you some ideas.
Sleep cycles are approximately 90 minutes. Try to time your alarms close to one of these windows of time when a cycle is ending.
You will have a much easier time waking up before you drop into deep sleep, you likely be less groggy as well.