am i the only one who had pretty good parents?

Yeah they're not perfect but like the biggest mistake they made was not getting me diagnosed for autism as a kid, and that's not really something i blame them for since it's really a societal problem and you can't feasibly handle something you've heard about in passing twice in your entire life..

Like it's not rocket science, treat your kids like actual human beings and you're a good way toward being a good parent.

I can stop this. I can just never have kids.

My dad died recently.

He was definitely a flawed man, and there were tons of problems between the two of us over the years. But I also heard plenty of stories about how he grew up, and about his parents—both from my dad and from other family members. Without a doubt, he managed to be a better person than his parents, and a better parent to me than his parents were to him. They were straight-up cruel to him, whether physically or simply using him for the family's gain.

That doesn't absolve everything, and I've still got plenty of my own issues. But what I respect most of him, in hindsight, is that he played the hand he was dealt and managed to be a better man. Not perfect, but better. I want to do the same.

Sorry for being sappy, it's only been a couple of weeks. I also know that this doesn't apply to everyone, since some parents are indefensibly cruel and abusive. In general, though, I hope people can be easy on each other, easy on themselves, and stop letting "perfect" be the enemy of "good."

This Be The Verse

BY PHILIP LARKIN

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.   

    They may not mean to, but they do.   

They fill you with the faults they had

    And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn

    By fools in old-style hats and coats,   

Who half the time were soppy-stern

    And half at one another’s throats.

Man hands on misery to man.

    It deepens like a coastal shelf.

Get out as early as you can,

    And don’t have any kids yourself.

Her: "So, hear me out: We'll give them every one of our issues and then take away all of the safety nets we enjoyed."

Him: "I'm so down. This is gonna be great!"

Society needs to change on a fundamental level. The school system is flawed. The government is flawed. Social expectations are flawed. The tech industry is rotten to the core. The environment is collapsing under the weight of random stuff humanity wants but doesn't need or benefit from. Our generation needs to fix this and clean up after our ancestors.

"Are you traumatized in any way? No? Think again! Did I do anything traumatizing? Tell me, I'm willing to admit and learn from my mistakes. So tell me, what did I do that traumatized you and don't look at me like that! I'm really trying to help you!"

Don't you find it easy to blame how fucked up you are on your parents? Coz, me too and guess my child is gonna do the same in turn.

Can't make the same mistakes if I can't talk to women.

I would argue that we still see some slight improvements and progress over the generations. Of course the difference could be much bigger but every time I bring up that we should implement tests and a license to have kids I'm call a crazy person...