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[–] Nice_Melt_Pleb@lemmy.world 90 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Whatever makes my dick hard is a woman.

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 48 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Convince yourself you're "totally straight" while sucking another guy's cock with this one weird trick

[–] SuperSoftAbby@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Let me tell you about my straight exhusband and his totally not gay guy friend that he would give and get BJs from. It was 100% platonic.

Why does the gay bar have so many hot girls with rock hard abs and well manicured beards

[–] Canadian_dalek@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago

New HRT just dropped

[–] ColonelSanders@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Same, though I'm pansexual so you can leave off those last three words

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[–] Anti_Weeb_Penguin@lemmy.world 51 points 1 year ago

I'm an "i don't care, looks female enough" kind of guy.

[–] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not straight, or a guy, but yes

[–] F0l11k@feddit.cl 6 points 1 year ago

Love your username lol

[–] Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've got a nonbinary friend who presents somewhat feminine, and they always say that anyone who finds them attractive is gay by default. So I guess what I'm saying is I'm not totally straight

[–] crystal@feddit.de 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wouldn't finding an nb person attractive be hetero attraction? Since they're of a different gender?

[–] Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess it depends how you define it, i feel like most people define hetero as being exclusively attracted to people of the opposite sex than you

[–] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They're using the (Greek-derived) scientific definition of "hetero" (i.e. different) vs "homo" (i.e. same). By those definitions, any cisgender + non-binary pairing would technically be heterosexual.

[–] cnnrduncan@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah I define myself as heterosexual cos I'm not attracted to people of the same gender as me. I'm not non-binary so being attracted to/sleeping with an enby person is not gay, at least according to how I define my own sexuality.

[–] glizzychief@lemmy.fmhy.ml 17 points 1 year ago
[–] Andiloor@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 year ago

I'm a gay guy so I'll answer this from that perspective: moreso men? I'm attracted to guys along with the occasional non-binary person or very butch lesbian (i.e. my attraction to them felt identical to how I'm attracted to men). Sometimes I'm attracted to a masc guy, sometimes it's a fem guy. Sometimes it's neither. I've been into every body type except bears (though including cubs).

Basically: if my social perception of you is that of a man despite your own gender identity, then I might be attracted to you. I apologize if my horniness assumes your gender

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I like boobs and pussy

That's the definition of "straight guy" right?

[–] ColonelSanders@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago

Boobs + Pussy = Bussy right?... Right??

[–] chumbalumber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not if you're a woman. Or if the boobs/pussy belong to a dude

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 10 points 1 year ago

I always figured straight or gay is related to sex, not gender. So a pre-transition trans man or a post-transition trans woman would count

[–] Sneptaur@pawb.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Would you date a trans guy

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

pre-transition? Sure

I don't like dicks though

And it would probably be difficult with me going "I love your boobs" and they're always like "I hate my boobs"

[–] Sneptaur@pawb.social 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

That's so strange. You're just attracted to people's body parts?

[–] Skellybones@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago

Yeah It's called sexual attraction at least meet the bare minimum

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's how it works for the vast majority of people.

Not like personality doesn't play a role. But certain body part combinations are a requirement.

[–] Sneptaur@pawb.social 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Tavarin@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not really, it's pretty key to the propagation of the species to find certain genitals and sexual traits attractive. Those that don't notice them or care about them are outliers in humanity.

[–] luna@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Outliers in humanity? Fuck off

[–] Tavarin@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Yes, and that's not a bad thing. Anyone outside of the average in a trait is an outlier. Being 7 feet tall makes one an outlier, being a genius makes one an outlier, etc...

Not sure why you're so offended.

[–] colin@lemmy.uninsane.org 3 points 1 year ago

nothing wrong with being an outlier

[–] Sneptaur@pawb.social 5 points 1 year ago

I'm asexual so this is very alien to me. I generally associate genitals with violence because of past trauma

[–] SirElliott@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Is their preference really any more arbitrary than the preferences sapiosexuals or demisexuals have? It sounds like they probably have other traits that may make someone more or less attractive, they just have a minimum requirement for a certain body form for them to begin having attraction. That isn’t so different when compared to a sapiosexual who requires a high intellect before they can begin being more or less attracted based on other traits.

TL;DR: All preferences are weird, no need to call anyone out on their specific ones :)

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[–] sarsaparilyptus@lemmy.fmhy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How do they do it on your planet?

[–] Sneptaur@pawb.social 7 points 1 year ago

I come from the planet of the ace, where nobody has sex and the masturbation doesn't matter

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[–] freecandy@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Doesn't matter, I'm aiming for the bum.

[–] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 8 points 1 year ago
[–] argv_minus_one@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Why not both?

[–] redditcuntsz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Tits and a vag to shove my dick in. Christ this is cringe.

[–] nBodyProblem@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago
[–] mrpants@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago

Romantically and sexually? Women. Aesthetically/interpersonally? Both.

[–] Ath47@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Both, and only both. Never just one or the other.

[–] Buelldozer@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Women, unquestionably.

[–] Ddhuud@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Woman. I wouldn't go as far as to say manly, but definitely not femininity.

[–] SternburgExport@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago

If only I'd knew the answer to that.

[–] Skellybones@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] ColonelSanders@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

No that would be pansexual (me)

[–] Skellybones@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Bi but it's a lie

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