I assume that every decision I make I'll regret for what could have been and embrace for what has become. And that's only the small part of the future I get to decide.
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I discovered in my midlife that I had a lot of potential careers I'd be good at, which was completely different than the careers I wanted as a kid.
I really wanted to be an astronaut, and my dad was actually in the space program during and after the Apollo program. But my field independence sucks and I'm prone to motion sickness, so no space travel for me.
On the other hand, I'm awesome at research and connecting seemingly unrelated facts, so I could have been a brilliant CIA analyst. I suck at languages, though, which is a requirement for entry.
I wanted to be a cop, so nah. Dodged a bullet.
I do like working out though, so glad it got me into that at least.
I wanted to be a bin man.
I wanted to be a repo man. Bullet dodged
Jean-Claude Van Damme had a good line.
He said that when he was 10 years old he decided that he wanted to be a world famous martial arts actor. Now he's a 50 year old man living a child's dream.
I admire Madonna, Garth Brooks and Lady Gaga for the same reasons. They all said, "I'm going to do this thing.", and did it. And they sure aimed high.
I don’t think that’s what’s meant. It’s not that he set out to do a thing and achieved it; it’s that he set out to do what a child dreamed of but now he’s a grown man.
Yeah, and it sounds like now he has 50 year old dreams that he yearns for instead.
And therefore..... this is an example of the dreams of youth definitely not being the regrets of maturity.
Damn it! That is a pretty good measure for maturity. Do you have the self awareness and experience to regret your youthful dreams?
I certainly do. I fixated on car culture at 15. I didn't know I enjoy being a Maker most, or that applied science is the field of the ultimate Maker demigods. If I could go back and explain this to myself, it would likely be deeply fulfilling.
Is something stopping you from going into the applied sciences?
I only barely survived a crash with two cars while riding a bicycle to work. My spine is all messed up and it appears unfixable. I'm professionally incompetent due to the deeply unstable sleep patterns. Sleeping remedies cause inactivity that create further problems. I am the undead trapped in limbo.
The memories of a man in his old age
Are the deeds of a man in his prime
Free Four, Pink Floyd
I dig pink Floyd deeply.
Presently listening to obscured by clouds a lot
After going through just life, Im don't even question myself that. I'm like dude, your survived . Period .
The dreams of youth are whatever you decide them to be once you get old enough look back on them.
For my part anyway, some of my dreams have been achieved, some haven't, and others that were the product of my youth have been completely outgrown.
Aesop's fable of the sour grapes seems fitting here.
If you regret the dreams of your youth, it may just be that you failed to achieve anything and are unwilling to accept your failures. So instead regret ever having dreams.
Darkness speaks in twisted truths because he's a manipulator by nature. It's not subtle.
I figure he's just a smart guy with a radically alien perspective. There's still some useful overlap, surely.
Think about it for a few decades and then tell us