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[–] Kahlenar@lemmy.world 54 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Videogames, no they're not a waste of time they're a huge cultural entity with a grand future.

[–] Unforeseen@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 year ago

After meeting your needs for survival, everything else is entertainment

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

With just how many are out there, how prevalent they are, and how large of an industry they are, they are definitely a huge cultural entity. As for a grand future, that I'm not so sure of if triple AAA titles are to be continuing the trends they are already going down.

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[–] weedwhacking@lemmy.world 49 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Being gay (despite how many times my dad said it was just a phase)

[–] drdabbles@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I always suspected people saying being gay is a "phase" are gay or bi themselves. I don't understand the thinking otherwise.

[–] MataVatnik@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

Son, your love for cock is just a phase. I got over it you will too. Now excuse me while I get on grindr and harass young men with my faceless empty profile.

[–] PeckerBrown@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hating the rich. Hated them when I was young; hate them even more as a boomer puke.

[–] Nutteman@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh shit, I've stumbled upon the rare good boomer

[–] PeckerBrown@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm not 'good'. However, I'm not a fool, and it's nothing short of suicidal folly to ignore or embrace those who consider themselves the owners (and harvesters) of mankind.

#ETROBAAT (eat the rich; one bite at a time)

[–] Granixo@feddit.cl 22 points 1 year ago

Being a gamer 🎮

Listening to Rock Music 🎸

Complaining about my parents' bad habits 🍷🍺

pr0n.

[–] iforgotmyinstance@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago

Emo/pop punk. Idgaf the music is banging. Went to the MCR reunion tour and had the time of my mid 30s life.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That I had to do everything for myself, all the time, in every way.

I'm indigenous Canadian and my parents basically grew up on their own in the wilderness. They basically just let is do anything and everything for ourselves on our own all the time.

I worked all the time as a kid ... at first because I had to but eventually because I wanted to because my parents were like that. I followed by example.

I remember at one point as a teen taking part in project after project trying to get people to help, to take part, to share or to even just join me and make the work easier. It was always a pain to get help.

I remember arriving at a breaking point and I just started ignoring people and did enormous projects on my own. Often people would just see me struggle and help but more often than not they wouldn't.

I've worked on my own ever since in building and construction .... I got it to the point where I could literally build my own house from the ground up.

[–] gowan@reddthat.com 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

You could build a home by yourself except pouring foundations and installing drywall as those take at least two people I presume.

[–] UsernameLost@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago

Possible to do solo with the right tools/enough muscle and stubbornness, much easier with 2 people

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[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm nearly 50 but I'll never stop buying band t-shirts. It's my absolute favourite thing.

[–] the_dopamine_fiend@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Graphic tees make the kind of first impression I want to make. I wear my special interests emblazoned on my torso because I want to meet and talk with people who vibe with them. If you recognize the Aphex Twin logo or Miskatonic University, we've already got something in common. It's that frickin' simple!

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I agree!!! Also I look like a babe in them lol.

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[–] Alterforlett@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I LOVE going to shows and getting a new shirt every time.

[–] the_dopamine_fiend@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Drunemeton@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m male, in my 50’s, and still waiting for that ‘peek at 17’ to stop…

[–] MataVatnik@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Right? I wish I could turn off my libido like a switch.

I thought this said phrase at first and was so confused.

Being goth tho 🖤

[–] TheInsane42@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hating kids. Never liked them when I was their age (it was mutual) and still don't like them. It took ages to find a partner that feels the same. She kinda likes them, for a short time, but doesn't want to have them, so that's close enough.

Also, not caring about clothes. Yeah, you need to wear something, way to cold not to, but what... don't care to much. Jump in store, get jeans (current favorite is a local farmers store brand, cheapest), next store, shirt and sweater, done. Record shopping time for a set that fitted was 15 min for 3 stores and 2 complete sets. Waste of money to have more then 1 set to wear, 1 in the laundry and one drying. (And 1 spare for emergencies, like missing your mouth with coffee when not awake yet)

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Don't want kids, never wanted kids, never will want kids. Did not grow out of it. Did not - as some idiots claimed was inevitable - marry some woman who then demanded kids out of the blue. In fact, did not marry at all. Never wanted that either.

Them: "Eventually you'll be miserable like me!"

Me: "Why the fuck would I do that?"

I went to visit one of my friends last week and we were having fun playing video games and going to the beach and getting takeout so we decided I'd stay a few days. Because we're both single childless adults and we can do whatever the fuck we want. Was a great few days.

[–] isthingoneventhis@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Never wanting to be in pictures or being outside/active for long periods of time. I will eternally look like a goblin and I don't have the social battery to deal with long excursions of "doing stuff". It tops out at maybe 2-4 hours depending and after that my brain basically turns to goo.

Oh and also: wearing all black. It just makes dressing myself not a hassle.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

There are certain types of people - extroverts, morning people, sports fans - who assume that they are the correct way a human should be and everyone else is somehow defective.

[–] Unforeseen@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Hahaha same. Friend and family called me the vampire. 95% of my clothes are black, including socks.

[–] N01R3@lemmynsfw.com 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I was told I would understand being a Conservative and become more right wing when I got older.

Still a left wing personality. Still don't support death to my friends and loved ones. Glad to be in Canada so I don't have to worry as much... But still have a lot of worries for their safety.

Oh and definitely my love of Halloween.

[–] daddyjones@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I was fairly conservative as a teenager (mostly because I was fairly ignorant and my parents were low key conservatives. I bucked the (apparent) trend by moving left. Happily call myself a socialist now.

[–] schmorpel@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 year ago

Believing that modern life is some kind of scam. Being very angry at 'society' (uhm I know, I'm part of it, so there) for not seeing how wrong everything is.

Wanting to be alone.

[–] roo@lemmy.one 11 points 1 year ago

Alternative. Music, politics, food cars. Mainstream never came back.

[–] Vaggumon@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago

Hating people.

[–] noseatbelt@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 year ago

Piercings and tattoos. Gaming. Not wanting kids.

I don't look very alternative so all these things surprise people if it comes up in casual conversation.

[–] Pandoras_Can_Opener@mander.xyz 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Wearing gender non conforming clothes (turns out I'm non binary, so I doubled down), not wanting to be around ex family (also doubled down), not wanting kids (cats don't count right? ❤️), being a nerd.

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[–] Weirdfish@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Pushing 50 and still pushing on a skateboard

Video games

Not wanting children

Bare bones utilitarian furniture

Athiest

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[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was told that after I got out of school I'd understand why it was necessary. I uh, still completely hate American schools and how they're structured and have no clue why they work the way they do.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Forcible social interaction & increased immunity via spread of germs.

Also they occasionally teach you stuff.

But there are so many better ways it could be done.

The thing is, once you have kids of your own, you'll understand the #1 reason for schools: state funded daycare so parents can go to work.

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[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Being depressed about the nature of life.

I cannot exist without something/someone else dying and I've always hated that.

In the words of a long dead king, "Vanity of vanities, says the Teacher, vanity of vanities! All is vanity. What do people gain from all the toil at which they toil under the sun? A generation goes, and a generation comes, but the earth remains forever."

Being depressed about the nature of life is not new and you are not alone in it.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 1 year ago

Computer nerd.

[–] toasteecup@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Pissing people off by having fun doing something the way I want to.

[–] ShittyBeatlesFCPres@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wanderlust and not wanting to get married and have kids. People said I’d change my tune when my friends started settling down and having kids but they did and I became even more certain. I don’t dislike the kids at all but some of us are just born to be the rowdy uncles.

As for Wanderlust, I have it worse than ever. I just slowly lose my mind until I travel and refill my sanity jar. (I might have actually lost it during the pandemic. When I got the 2nd dose of the vaccine, it was like a brain fog suddenly cleared because I could leave the U.S. again.)

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[–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

I still listen to angry music, envy the occasional gutter punk I see, and think if I somehow got my hands on the globally nuclear arsenal that I would gladly give the world a much needed reboot.

Metal and anarchism

[–] UsernameLost@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

Gaming, listening to emo music, thinking engineering is cool as shit, willing to do a boring job to make more money than I can in engineering (project management)

[–] WhoRoger@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Hating the parents

[–] pHr34kY@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Driving like a hoon. You'd swear I was a teenager behind the wheel.

I still have the loud-piped hot hatch and subwoofers at 39.

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