TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

For someone who gives this much of a shit about gender roles, you'd think they'd learn the correct forms of the word for an intended spouse.

My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn't, which I made clear to her at the time.

We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

And maybe this is a dumb question, but what happens when forename surnameA-surnameB marries or has children with forename surnameX-surnameY?

What is the resulting name? forename surnameA-surnameB-surnameX-surnameY? Do they pick one of each, e.g. A-X?

My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother's surname.

Do you think Matt brain would blue screen if I told him I took my wife's last name?

Everyone has funny or unique stories about last names... Some people change their names for love, others keep them for work, and some even mix them up for fun. It’s like having many characters in one story, just like Jeffrey Combs does in acting—each name choice has its special vibe

I just see it as a hassle. Like why even bother? She would have to explain why she wants to take my name and I would try talking her out of it "What if we get a divorce in 7 years or so? Do you just have to change it back then?" I'm sure that would go over well

How normal is a maiden name? I thought mostly Christians did it. In a lot of cultures surname is just a father's name, so maiden concept never made sense to me.

Edit: confused maiden name with husband name.

Well it'll be easier for scammers since she didn't change her last name

The government wants your money and to waste time.

Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.

There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

1. She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

2. She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

It's heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It's exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.

I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.