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[–] Shameless@lemmy.world 69 points 2 months ago (1 children)

100% men have denied men from having cute outfits for too long! Be the change you want to see in the world

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] OmgItBurns 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I don't own a cloak, but I'm 90% confident that they're more convenient than coats/jackets

[–] pupbiru@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

i don’t own a cloak but i have a damn comfy blanket that works great when worn with a clasp around the neck and it might be the best reinvention i’ve ever found

[–] fallentides@lemmy.one 47 points 2 months ago (3 children)

We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts. That’s all I’m here to do anyways. Historically, prly religion upholding the patriarch; same difference. Hide them elbows and ankles!

[–] pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 32 points 2 months ago (3 children)

As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it's not about the clothes. That it doesn't matter. It's more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It's a source of sadness for me.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I mean, looking like you know what you're doing, looking confident doesn't mean you have to dress plain.

Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

[–] pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

True, I don't have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen

[–] USSEthernet@startrek.website 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Lol no joke, all I get is "nice beard" from other dudes.

[–] Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 months ago

I felt like this as well, but it turns out it was gender dysphoria for me all along. Men being completely invisible is one of the hardest parts of being masc.

[–] sneekee_snek_17@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

I mean, I'm 30 and a non traditional college student. If the weather is agreeable, I have a few nice sweaters that I'll wear with an undershirt, dark jeans, and I've got a pair of Loake boots that are very nice.

I feel GREAT when I dress like that, and get quite a few glances throughout the day. Also my wife eyeballs me as I leave the house.

[–] doublepepperoni@hexbear.net 22 points 2 months ago (2 children)

We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts.

Bring back ostentatious codpieces for the dudes

[–] sentient_loom@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 months ago

Bring back ostentatious codpieces for the dudes

They never went away in my house.

[–] Flyberius@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

And slashed pantaloons

[–] JustAnOrdinaryCreep@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 months ago

Will you marry me?

[–] SpookyGenderCommunist@hexbear.net 43 points 2 months ago (3 children)

The Great Male Renunciation and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race

[–] SSJ3Marx@hexbear.net 37 points 2 months ago (2 children)

TIL that there's a name for it.

[–] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] WanderingVentra@lemm.ee 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

How have I never heard of this, too? Because I've definitely complained about this before lol.

Wow, that's amazing - thanks!

[–] observes_depths@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

To save some people a minute, from Wikipedia:

The Great Male Renunciation is the historical phenomenon at the end of the 18th century in which wealthy Western men stopped using bright colours, elaborate shapes and variety in their dress, which were left to women's clothing. Instead, men concentrated on minute differences of cut, and the quality of the plain cloth. Coined by British psychologist John FlΓΌgel in 1930, it is considered a major turning point in the history of clothing in which the men relinquished their claim to adornment and beauty.

[–] TheChemist@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago

I shall allow my male OCs to wear bright colors. Pink. Bluish Spruce, even Apple Green.

[–] jewbacca117@lemmy.world 29 points 2 months ago (2 children)
[–] Misanthrope@lemmy.ml 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Great episode. Came here to post this.

Here's an alt link https://podcastaddict.com/behind-the-bastards/episode/179384649

[–] T0RB1T@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 months ago

I was just thinking about the Beau Brummel episode. He was almost an actually good guy too. One of the least bastardly people to be covered.

[–] Vampire@hexbear.net 21 points 2 months ago
[–] mydoomlessaccount@infosec.pub 12 points 2 months ago

I have learned to circumvent this issue by simply never being important enough to be invited to formal events.

It's worked well thus far, though nobody seems to notice.

[–] spiffy_spaceman@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago

Have you seen the way old men dress? Everything is gray or brown with the least amount of shape or texture. It's like boomers collectively agreed to be as uniform and boring as possible. There used to be as much style and individuality in men's fashion as women's, but sometime around the end of the 1800s they all said "let's just all wear this one plain thing for the next 200 years."

[–] Dpof@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

I'm wondering this too, at least is their a reason why I can't where my thigh highs to school

[–] glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago

Don't the Scottish men wear short skirts? But they seem rather the exception than the rule. Maybe the native Americans also wore skirts of some kind, or sometimes nothing at all.