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Final Fantasy XI

Final Fantasy XI is the eleventh numbered installment in the… Okay, you know what it is, I’m just going to tell you about one of the storylines!

During the Wings of the Goddess expansion, adventurers will be sent back in time to experience the events of the Crystal War, a cataclysmic event that is the foundation for conflicts of the modern-day timeline. Should an adventurer choose to serve the Kingdom of San d’Oria, they will be immersed in the story of the Young Griffons—a group of children who would see themselves knights, many of whom grow into prominent characters later in life.

Among the Young Griffons, the player will find Bistillot, a shy boy who doesn’t like to be seen. With his penchant for engineering, shy demeanor, and lack of combat potential, Bistillot prefers to spend his time inside of an orcish war machine that he was able to repair to working condition.

He is often seen before he is heard, with his signature phrase, “HAAAALLOOOOOOOOO” being used to hail the adventurer. Through the course of the story, Bistillot finds his way, even contributing to the war effort with his engineering skills.

However, when another member of the Young Griffons is kidnapped and taken to the present day, the adventurer must return to the present day and reunite with the Young Griffons’ present selves! The adventurer’s first contact in the present day is Bistillot. When the adventurer hears the signature “HAAAALLOOOOOOO,” Bistillot approaches the player, but what the player sees is… a woman?? She introduces herself as Bostilette, a “friend of Bistillot.”

After the rescue mission, Bostilette comes clean. She is, of course, the very same Bistillot who was a little boy twenty years earlier. She explains that she was very sick as a baby, so her parents gave her a boy’s name so that she would be stronger and survive the illness. Once she overcame the illness, she was comfortable to reclaim her name and gender. Well, that closes the book on that story, except… I’ve decided that’s bullshit!

I have unilaterally decided that Bostilette is trans, the sickness she had was dysphoria, she stayed in the orcish war machine because she was an egg, and I hope you all agree!

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[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why don’t people talk more about the misery of understimulation? Shit fucking sucks.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (13 children)

Goooood morning megathread niko-yawn

I will continue posting about theory, I will never stop.

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

FFXI Trans Mega, very cool.

[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (3 children)

am i doomed to have a panic attack each time it rains heavily now? last time our house flooded and i guess that had a lasting effect on me. i had some anxiety meds n i'm okay and no flooding, just some roof leaks. but i don't think i'm gonna be able to relax or go back to sleep til its over

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[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

I hope the girl I like feels better by Saturday. We're planning on going up to redacted to pick pumpkins and have a girl's night carving them and I'm daydreaming just thinking about holding her hand and turning heads when they see two attactive girls walking around together and just... ughhhh hyperflush

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

~~In a state of I wanna sleep but I don't wanna waste the rest of this day, I might just be building up this day so much~~ Screw it I was alive for another year cause enough to be happy

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

Estrogen stay winning

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

CW whiningate something bad, so i'm up like 3 hours early on the weekend just stressin' and feeling sick and being kinda sad/scared/etc. missed opportunity to watch the sunrise ig

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Was gonna post a devious hot take on the current theory discussion, but realised i have no clue

just respect your fellow trans people or something idk, that's my hot take i-love-not-thinking

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (9 children)

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They made him their king

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I (accidentally) cut myself pretty badly shaving (I was doing it wrong). I then did not take care of it properly, and now the problem is worse.

At some point I'll take care of myself properly, I hope.

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

If someone bawls, doggirl-tears

You pick them up doggirl-happy meow-hug

[–] Ambii@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

::: spoiler internalized transphobia(?) Does anyone else feel like they can't fully come out until they can 'prove' themselves? Like for example I can't help but feel like I'm 'not allowed' to ask for my desired pronouns/name from friends or my partner or people in general if I don't first at least get rid of facial hair and at the bare minimum sound like I'm voice training.

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh (obnoxious emote usage)party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob party-blob

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)

factorio space age is out *wagwagwagwagwags* yey

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I just saw I saw the TV glow and fully expected to hate it, but it was actually beautiful. Also mildly painful to watch, but there is a sad, haunting wonder both in its visuals and its themes.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (3 children)

It's a god damn winter wonderland where I live

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

It's 106 miles to the trans mega, i got a full syringe of estrogen, half a fifth of rum, it's not even october and i'm drinking fucked up christmas vodka. hit it. pineapple-spin

[–] RION@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (13 children)

now that I have my job and moved to an apartment the procedural barriers to actually doing something about my gender have all but eroded. Theoretically I could go to an informed consent place and get an HRT prescription. It's just really scary to consider doing that

I've found myself really consumed with doubt when I think about it, which has been less so now that I'm working full time and have less time to idly contemplate my identity. Truth be told, living as a guy feels... fine right now. Not great, but not the worst thing in the world? Shouldn't that not be the case?

I'm scared that I've been deluding myself for almost two years now. Cis people supposedly almost never think about their gender, it's said, but I'm unusual in a lot of other ways. What if I'm the odd cis person that does think about their gender? What if I'm tricking myself just so I get to feel "special" and not like a lame guy? Or what if these OCD symptoms I've been discovering with my therapist are behind all this, and it's just something I latched onto as an obsession that doesn't really mean anything about my identity after all?

I'm thinking about just going for DIY HRT so I don't have to show my face at a clinic if I turn out not to like it. That's giving me some hope, the idea that if a cis person takes the wrong hormones they feel like garbage. That way I know for sure, right?

Thinking about this gives so much anxiety, but I know that if it is something I want then every second spent waffling is another second wasted. My habitual over-analysis goes in circles. Makes me wish I just didn't have to exist so I didn't have to figure this out. I see my therapist tomorrow so I hope she has good advice for me

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (6 children)

GOOD MORNING FUCKERS ✨ Replies from last mega:

@naom3@hexbear.net It would be way cooler and funnier if people just picked up your pronouns by default, but yeah I see they/them as a pretty good outcome tbh :)

@sneak100@hexbear.net Are you saying I should cowrite End Cisnormativity: Nothing Is Gendered with the megathread RIGHT NOW and publish it??? doggirl-smart

@WalrusDragonOnABike@lemmy.today

It's weird how much the book explicitly quotes sources, but the whole book seems to push the idea of "NBs are the real oppressors" without nearly as much direct quotes

C'mon, Whipping Girl does not assert this. ...right? niko-wtf I am only ~100 pages in and c'mon, no it doesn't. Please, that can't be real. If it actually is I will unironically cancel Serano. I beg of you...

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[–] SpookyGenderCommunist@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

I visited a trans friend of mine, this weekend, and bought a couple of very cute dresses! :3

[–] thirtymilliondeadfish@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

26 months on a 3 month waitlist I'm going to explode

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Thallo is the goddess of spring, buds, and blooms~

Let a thousand flowers bloom beneath this comment 🌹

Let them grow and obscure the news mega~

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[–] Wake@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Journaling, Navel GazingSo I'm several hours away this week for work training. This is the same place I was at when my egg cracked back in January. It's really weird being back here since so much has changed. 6 months of HRT and a lot of therapy will do that I suppose. I spent a lot of time last night ruminating about the year so far, and the things to come. So I might as well journal my thoughts.

I can't believe the progress I've made. I have accomplished so much in my life this year so far. I've neglected so much for that last few decades and it feels good to get things done. On top of getting my life together, I also look so different and it's amazing. I have no idea how the cissies around me haven't noticed anything. Or maybe they have and just haven't said anything about it. I do worry about how much longer I can effectively boymode.

On the topic of boymoding, it really hit me last week that one day soon I'll boymode for the last time. That day is approaching and I'm sure I'm not ready for it yet. I barely go out in public in girlmode, though I am getting braver. I really need a new job before I can do anything major, since being outed at work would probably get me fired. Most of my coworkers, all of my management, and a lot of my customers are violently transphobic.

I've been applying for jobs like crazy. But I'm kinda on the fence about how to present for job interviews. I don't know if I should include pronouns in the resume, deadname and chosen name, or just use my chosen name. I am currently applying with just my dead name, and that's probably the easiest for the short term.

Outside of all of that, I want to start streaming regularly. I need to set a schedule and stick to it. I think that streaming will help me work on my voice, as well as help me with my general anxiety. I'm surprised at how anxious I get when I stream, or hang out on vrchat, but it is getting better.

Anyway, just want to end by saying I love all of you. cat-trans

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

if you can build up the confidence, i would recommend aiming to apply for jobs under your chosen name and presenting as your preferred gender. this is what i believe benefits people in early transition most in the long term, although i understand it's difficult!

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[–] Antiwork@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Losing to DT is fucking embarrassing. Can you imagine?

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