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Leaving the shopping cart in a parking spot and not in the cart corral.

• Not saying "please" or "thank you" to people in the service industry
• Not able to accept when they are wrong
• Any type of "I know enough and don't need to learn more" type of behavior
• Prioritizing an organization (political party, church, sports team, etc) over actual people
• Littering

Being rude to people that are providing goods/services

The Confederate Flag.

They think corporations and for-profit organizations ever have their best interest at heart.

Non-adherence to the "Golden Rule." It's very simple, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Religious components aside, just don't be a jerk to others. Start from a place of respect and reevaluate after they show their colors.

Littering

When someone blasts loud music in a public space.

Someone who spouts, Every single thing comes back to 'gods plan'

You got hurt and lost a job, God's plan..

Lost your baby to cancer, God's plan..

Mom got remarried after her first husband died in an accident, God's plan...

Gets offensive after a while

They commit sexual harassment and assault.

Seriously, just keep it in your pants and keep your damn hands to yourself, why is that so impossible for your lizard brain to comprehend?

People who use "I didn't know who it belonged to" to justify stealing things.

Not throwing out their trash at a fast food place because "someone will take care of it".

When they interrupt and talk over the top of people. They should have been taught not to do that as a child.

My wife spit gum in the parking lot a couple months ago.

I was not happy.

There's a few other instances lately where she's not been thinking through things. She's becoming more like her dad in her later middle age, and I'm getting concerned.

They use violent language frequently.

Had a manager that said in a meeting, "Looks like I'll have to start taking employees to the back and shooting them in the head."

This was over his employees not performing.

Joke or not... wtf.

I was a latchkey kid with early onset major depression.

I developed my moral compass when in my thirties I realized I was ignorant and my father was defending extrajudicial detention and torture of POWs by the United States. (That was the sort of thing masterminds did in movies to show they were evil, so WTF, America?)

Since then, after considerable deep dives, I've come to the conclusion that no one is raise right, that the industrial age decimated the extended family in which kids were raised by a community of adults, and parents weren't driven to exhaustion by work.

Mental illness and abuse in the developed world is intergenerational. My parents are mad as hatters, but they didn't have a chance. And their parents (The Greatest Generation) were traumatized. One was a WWII sniper with 30+ kills and ghosts in his eyes.

The human species is flying by the seat of its pants. We're in uncharted territory. It's not possible to raise kids right so much as with more or less functionality, which is not the same as capacity to cope.

They don't wash their hands after taking a piss.

They talk on the phone while taking a shit in a public restroom.

Person A is carrying a big heavy thing and person B (carrying nothing) doesn't get out of the way/hold the door

Not putting shit away in public when they could easily do so with minor effort for someone's/everyone's benefit. Shopping carts, plates at a food court, trash, etc.

Well I'm left handed.

They think terrorists are whoever the US says they are.

Playing loud music in a packed commuter train, watching tok tiks while watching a movie in the cinema, using both armrests when they have the window seat.

When I really click and get along well with them. When I just get someone inherently, I know they had a fucked up childhood. "It's complicated" is as close to a good relationship with their parents as most of my friends get. See, I myself wasn't raised right, to put it lightly. I have a sixth sense for people with childhood trauma. My best friend has cptsd, and so do I. We're crazy in the same way, and it's great.

Eating with their mouth open

He kills the Sand Peoples. The women and children too.

When a person finds any excuse to be angry to the point of intentionally misinterpreting things. It's impossible to have a conversation with such people.

Being trashy and having no regard for other people around.