Hello new Lemmy friends!
Word on the street tells us our community is regularly making it the all page. While this is very cool news to hear, we can see how the sudden emergence of our posts in your feed might feel jarring and probably raises some questions. And also how, without knowing the backstory, our community might appear less than virtuous, so here’s a very brief introduction which hopefully will clear a few things up.
The woman we’re discussing is a body positive influencer and media personality who has gained fame and wealth by lying, manipulating, exploiting her children for content, plagiarizing BIPOC creators and blaming her BIPOC content editor for it (thereby ruining her career), among other things. Her fraudulent behavior is no different (I’d argue worse) from the likes of Jay Shetty (google him if you don’t know who he is or what he did). She’s the latest in a long line of grifting influencers who are abusing their power, taking advantage of their position and exploiting their followers. The difference is that she’s Canadian. Our laws around social media and advertising aren’t as clear (and where they are she’s disobeyed them), add to that, our mainstream media has protected her from those who’ve tried to expose her grift and silenced/intimidated anyone who’s tried to speak out.
Our Reddit sub was taken down due to reports of copyright infringement, which is unfounded and categorically untrue as no one ever tried to steal her work and pass it off as their own. The mods have made an appeal. While at first glance it may seem like we’re just “shitting on her” the sub has been more devoted to investigation and posting proof of her lies than just bitching for the sake of bitching. The reality is that she’s hurt, manipulated and let down a lot of people. She stole intellectual property and employment, caused mental distress and has repeatedly told lies to boost engagement and profit off her audience, so people are understandably upset that their voices are being silenced.
We’re grateful to have been welcomed so kindly by so many of you, and to those sticking around to watch the drama unfold, we’re glad to have you!
**all posts are alleged.
Rules:
-Please follow Lemmy content guidelines. See https://lemmy.ca/
-Minor's Right to Privacy: No posts about the children whatsoever. No mention of full names and no photos. Minors must be completely removed from all photos/videos. No exceptions. This goes for ANY child. No just TBP's.
-No snarking on the character or appearance of any of the children. This is a site dedicated to Sarah Landry.
-No posting information that is not readily available online/NoDoxxing: Influencers post an abundance of personal information online. Examples of doxxing include:
-Comments Regarding Mental Health: Jokes or Snide remarks about mental health or unaliving oneself will not be tolerated under any circumstances. No armchair diagnosing.
-Do not post or solicit communication with TBP or related influencers: This includes screenshots and references to 'this is what I commented.' Please message a mod if you would like to share anything anonymously.
-No racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, body shaming or other ism/bigotry.
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-Fact check and do your homework: Make sure to research before posting. If you are posting photos or videos that are filtered/photoshopped, make sure it is blatantly obvious. No rumours. no speculations (example Ozempic use).
-No overly vulgar language.
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-No duplicate posts
So she posts a reel with M, who asks not to be posted, so she manipulates her into a reel without her face. She then proceeds to include her bending over to pick up L’s sign. She is such an asshole. I hope she knows that M will realize this one day. The clock is ticking.
I wouldn’t stress about any of them blocking you because they just do what they think will preserve their images.
As for AM well AM’s hubby told someone to literally unalive themselves, and yet A’s friend F has had 2 siblings pass this way. Most of the shine people are openly sober but AM was going to push booze. AM threatened to punch someone and was working with anti violence organization.
B supports an incredible trans account (this is good news) who had their t-shirt designs stolen (this is awful, and we should all be mad) and yet S&K t-shirt company that B used for her viral water thing uses designs that aren’t her own (for the S&K pride merchandise). Go look at the more pride less prejudice, frog umbrella one and the angry woman one- they are all over the web and are dated before launch). B took down the links to help stop genocide to put up merch link.
With mental health posts they get $ from organizations too. They still buy Disney, Coke, Amazon, all of which are complicit in genocide.
These friends are all about consent but S is not cool with consent. The friends are mostly all against showing their kids or child relatives, but S isn’t and they are okay with this. S doesn’t speak up for pride, trans rights or genocide but B & AM did (B removed link, A only posted half-assed thing in fall then a link but showed no contribution). So I think friendships with S and shine people have seemed to lower moral compass.
There’s more, but they aren’t worth worrying about. Let’s call them out for disappearing stories when it’s anything of substance, pushing links for environmental damaging food and clothing companies and just overlooking bad behavior.
Would you be upset if you were in high school and you called out a mean girl for bad behavior but then got cancelled or ignored by her friends? No you wouldn’t. Treat this like high school. After high school (or adulthood with superficial friendships with popularity or financial benefits in this case) people discover themselves and either get worse or they improve themselves. I think, let’s let these adults figure out that they are contributing to problematic behavior and let’s let them show that they can grow.
In the meantime keep calling them out (as you should in real life too), attend protests, contribute to mutual aid, donate your time to worthy causes, stop over consuming and ignore these people. Look for community in groups even like this if it’s all you can do, to search for people who are looking to disrupt the status quo. Let these ones figure out life a little longer.
They can block and we can too. I suggest blocking anyone that is harmful to your mental health. It could be perhaps that them getting called out or they are looking for comments that call their friends out causes them mental distress because they aren’t ready to face the facts yet. And ultimately if it’s not good for their mental health, they will have to block you too. To an outsider that seems really silly. You would think that when people are making suggestions to become better people that people will try to take strides, but it’s often once they’re through the fog that they will see the error of their ways.