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Hadn't heard of this until just now..
I'm a cis het white guy.
I think 99% of the time a random guy is safe, there's a lot of guys out there, maybe I have tinted glasses, I'll say 75% of the time a random guy is safe, maybe I'm sheltered in my California comfort, 50% of the time a random guy is safe.
I wouldn't think myself safe in more than 2% of encounters with a bear, no sarcasm. Take a walk in a park in Alaska, it doesn't matter how many people are around you're always questioning every noise.
And for that comparison I understand survivors concerns with random people, but bears are not a comparable thing in Bear country (much like I haven't been in vulnerable women's shoes) (maybe sun bears or small black bears.... Not the big ones...)
Yes. YES YOU DO. 99% of men are not a threat TO YOU. But how could you know any different?
To women though? It's way way WAY higher. For me it's not even a question between bear or man. Men are the reason I am scared to walk by myself at night.
Like, just go by the numbers if you are skeptical
https://vpc.org/press/nearly-1800-women-murdered-by-men-in-one-year-new-violence-policy-center-study-finds/
https://animal-world.com/bear-attack-statistics/
You need to step out of your own perspective and really understand the world that women are forced to live in before answering this question. I can respect that you think you might be biased, but I can not stress enough how "biased" is an understatement.
This is something that I am embarrassed but took me 30 years to... Notice? I don't want to say understand because I don't think I will truly be able too.
It took getting married and my ex wife being sexually assaulted TWICE. WTF is wrong with us.