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Can you demonstrate a sound reasoning for having suffered damages in a quantifiable, monetary way? This isn't always strictly necessary, but it sure is helpful. Hurt feelings are great and all, but they generally aren't worth monetary compensation on their own.
This also, of course, depends on the local laws wherever you live, and can vary considerably.
I don’t really want money or compensation, I just want to make him regret everything he’s been doing to not only me, but also his girlfriend. I know that may sound immature, or silly, but it’s personal for me now. But I understand if I can’t sue for monetary reasons. I just can’t live with letting someone using personal information that I shared with someone else as a weapon against me. Especially something I try to keep private.
I believe the person commenting is trying to establish if you have “standing” by the legal definition. If no harm/damages or potential harm/damages can be proven, most judges will not hear a case per lack of standing.
Unless, of course, you're the state of Missouri suing the white house
In which case the laws no longer apply. Thanks Supreme Court!
Gotcha that makes sense
That's difficult, as that's the job of the criminal justice system as opposed to the civil, which is more for rectifying wrongs with money. You could potentially file charges if what he did is illegal in your jurisdiction.
Just to re-iterate, laws are different in different places, as well, which limits any advice we can give. Not just a little different, but very different. While I understand not wanting to divulge personal details online, this is as far as we can go.
Gotcha thank you I will try and see if I pressing charges are even an option.
np. If what he did was genuinely illegal under some law of your land, whether country or state/province, you would simply go to the police and file the charges. Taking it from there becomes their job. Which they don't always do, but that's a different topic entirely.
Good luck.
Don't ask police or friends or even an attorney. Ask your local version of legal aide. This is basically what they do.
Wait, your friend is still dating them? Wtf?
Yes. They live with them and has her kid living there so she’s scared to do anything.
If you take action against him, is he likely to take it out on your friend? If she can’t leave him, that might inform your decision.
Why doesn’t your “friend” stick up for you to this asshole? If legal routes don’t work, you can always find some sort of petty revenge to make his life a living hell. If you’re into that kind of thing.
It seems pretty clear the friend is in an abusive relationship, so it really isn't that simple. The comment you're replying to literally described how their friend felt unsafe taking any action, especially with her child living there, so I think that's your answer.
You are correct. Thank you for holding me accountable. Sometimes I can be shortsighted, as it is human nature, and not consider the whole story. Sorry OP for coming off as a dick. I am empathetic to your situation and I hope you find some justice and your friend and her child can find a way to leave safely.
You don't know the home situation, they literally just said their friend was scared.
The only thing you can do in court is file a lawsuit against him. The courts are split into two halves: Civil court, which is where you sue people, settle divorces, file evictions, etc… And criminal court, which is where the state files criminal charges against people. Any kind of criminal court action would need to be filed by the state. Or more specifically, it’s filed by the attorney general on behalf of the state. Regular citizens can’t file in criminal court.
You could potentially a restraining order or order of protection against him if you can prove that he’s harassing you. In fact, a lawyer may suggest you do exactly that simply to get him to chill out while the civil case proceeds. But that will need to be backed up by actual proof, and hurt feelings aren’t enough to justify it. You’ll need to prove a repeated pattern of harassing behavior, that you’ve asked him to stop, and that the behavior is negatively impacting your day-to-day life in a meaningful way.
you want a publicly funded entity to enforce a personal grudge? yes this definitely does sound immature.
Or they want a publicly funded entity to enforce stalking laws against somebody who may have committed an actual crime and invasion of privacy.