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submitted 10 months ago by dumples@kbin.social to c/mensliberation@lemmy.ca

Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

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[-] HikingVet@lemmy.ca -1 points 10 months ago

Biggest issue with the article. NO male voices, and it's repeating the same lines I have heard since the mid 00's.

Now I acknowledge that there hasn't been much movement on the dating front, but men are only half the problem, as they are only half the population.

They would change in a hurry as a group if they needed to, but men aren't a monolith and neither are women.

You want men to be better, be better yourself. The article is garbage by saying men need to step up while not talking to them about the issues they face in the dating world. ESPECIALLY if they aren't Hetronormative.

[-] forrgott@lemm.ee 0 points 10 months ago

So, men are only a problem because...women are the problem?

Wow.

Fuck's sake, worry about yourself. You want better? Deserve it. Or not, and settle for less. Whatever.

[-] HikingVet@lemmy.ca -1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

An article that wonders why people aren't getting married says they went out and only asked one side what the problem was. 🤔

Doesn't even seem balanced....

Edit: as a romance favourable aroace, the dating world was a nightmare, even if you do everything "right". Which is why I no longer look to find companionship.

Do better or not, there are garbage people in all genders and the prevailing "men bad" when it comes to dating is just as toxic as what the men are doing.

The article also doesn't suggest any possible solutions.

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