What's truly insane is people who marry under 20. And if you think it's possible to know who you are and what you want at that age, you have a very simplistic view of the world. Or you're brainwashed by those who reared you, ie you have a very simplistic view of the world.

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No, teenagers are often gifted with some nugget of wisdom or other about their lives, it's just that parents and random commenters online never believe it.

I knew I wanted to get married and to whom. I also knew it was a good idea. I only waited to mid-twenties because she wasn't sure. 30 years farther along, we're still married and teenaged me is proved right.

Cynical, older, slower me might have screwed it up somehow.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org -1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm happy that it worked out for you. I think you got lucky. I don't think most people are mature enough to make such a call at 20yo.

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 1 points 9 months ago

Of course I was lucky. The decisions we make around starting a family can reverberate for centuries. Even if we had enough information (we don't), I don't think people are mature enough at any age to make the right call,