Not going to try to change your mind about this opinion, but I'll take a stab at shaming you for being so vocal about a thought that is very much "othering". Maybe turn down the judgement a bit, you don't know people.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org -3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

What's truly insane is people who marry under 20. And if you think it's possible to know who you are and what you want at that age, you have a very simplistic view of the world. Or you're brainwashed by those who reared you, ie you have a very simplistic view of the world.

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No, teenagers are often gifted with some nugget of wisdom or other about their lives, it's just that parents and random commenters online never believe it.

I knew I wanted to get married and to whom. I also knew it was a good idea. I only waited to mid-twenties because she wasn't sure. 30 years farther along, we're still married and teenaged me is proved right.

Cynical, older, slower me might have screwed it up somehow.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org -1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm happy that it worked out for you. I think you got lucky. I don't think most people are mature enough to make such a call at 20yo.

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 1 points 9 months ago

Of course I was lucky. The decisions we make around starting a family can reverberate for centuries. Even if we had enough information (we don't), I don't think people are mature enough at any age to make the right call,

[–] sixty@sh.itjust.works -5 points 9 months ago

You're weird