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I think the worst thing we do is basically shut down non-harmful outs.
We attack therapists who don't outright vilify non-offending pedos, without considering the fact that said pedos come to them because they don't want to offend, don't want to hurt.
If these people don't have harmless outs, they will instead turn to harmful outs and covering up their crimes.
Wasn't it that studies show that in most child abuse cases the abuser is not a pedophile?
Depends what terminology you use. Officially, pedophile means sexually interested in prepubescent children, with a second term, ephebephile, for those with sexual interest in teenagers, but in general usage, 'pedophile' usually covers all sexual interest in minors.
So using the official definition you're correct, as most cases involve teenagers, but most people will just call them pedophiles anyway.
For clarity's sake, I've been using the term pedo in the general sense (all people attracted to minors).