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I'm intersex. Non standard genitals. Times and times again I'm being made to choose to be a man or a woman. My pleas to get minimal hormones just to be healthy are ignored. I'm in medical debt due to dealing with debilitating complications from doctors forcing my body to be either female or male. Letting my body be it's normal self minus what was causing actual issues was never an option. I'm deeply convinced if nonbinary people were acknowledged this wouldn't be the case. I'm given zero control. Asking to be put on low dose is ignored. My only option is refusing all hormones and hoping my body will manage. I don't have natural dysphoria, I get dysphoria from the surgical and hormonal changes forced upon me. I'm tired. Fuck nbphobia.

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[โ€“] voracitude@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Hey, I have a question. We're not supposed to ask if we don't know and someone brings it up, we're meant to Google and read, right? So here's my question, in two parts: does everyone writing about these issues online speak for the entire rest of the community? If not, how exactly are we supposed to know what's relevant to the experience of the specific person we're talking to?

See, me, I have a diagnosed disability. It has a couple of different ways of presenting, depending on the sufferer. I have gathered links to academic papers and articles, blog posts, collected memes, etc. that explain aspects of my experience for when people are curious. It's very useful when people want to know more.

[โ€“] Damaskox@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Some folks just rather want to learn stuff in the form of discussion, through someone's experience. (that you cannot find in articles)
While others rather read articles about it. (there you can find science more likely)

Neither option is wrong.
I always rather discuss than delve in articles myself ๐Ÿ™‚