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This is why I laughed when I saw the post on lemmy.ml with that screenshot from reddit of a user complaining about Lemmy.
All the comments were acting as if everything the user said was wrong and Lemmy has no problems.
This site has a shit ton like how you experienced.
Bear in mind that some instances blocked Hexbear and similar. This means that what people perceive as the fediverse can be very different. Some instances are super curated while others see warts and all.
Plus some users have blocked the instance on their side. Easy to forget how bad things are when you utilize blocking.
But we (as a collective) do need to remember that what we experience isn't the same as what a potential new member experiences. Which is why I now advocate defederating instances like Hexbear. I really didn't want to for a while, but eventually it became clear that they're too aggressive and bad for the fediverse as a whole.
Every once in a while I see people criticizing Beehaw and Blahaj for censorship or being too sensitive. Like... I don't have to see quite as much garbage, thanks.
Mine hasn't blocked anything as far as I know. The majority of content I see is fine though, its just that little bit that gets... wild. I'm a bit used to seeing shit takes and actual unhinged lunacy from twitter and reddit though, so it not too jarring.
Man, I still have RedReader installed on my phone so very occasionally I take a look at reddit. Don't engage, I mean I couldn't if I tried anyway since they banned me for saying Fuck Spez, but my god. Either I was blind to how insanely toxic/hateful it was or it has gotten significantly worse in the past two months.
Oh yeah it's gotten toxic there too. I get linked to reddit stuff a lot by friends so I sometimes read the comments. People are so angry there.
It began getting more intolerable in June before all the bullshit happened. Can't imagine how it would be to just use Reddit alone now.
I go out of my way to making sure that I come off as calm-headed, polite and as calm as I can. Mainly because I used to be one of those angry redditors who lashed out at everyone. I just... fuck. Did I really used to be that bad?
I swear my blood pressure has dropped since joining Lemmy. Especially over where I call home, Startrek.website
That site really brought the worse out in people lol. I actually had a user curse me out in modmail because I removed a post of theirs for animal cruelty. Had to quit modding there because my blood pressure was getting worse each time I opened the app. Actually got my blood pressure taken last week for the first time since June and it was super low, so I will always now say leaving Reddit did it lol.
Lemmy in areas such as this or your instance are some of my favorite places on this site. No stress or users who want to cause issues with others.