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I really hate the "what do you do for a living question." I cringe everytime I hear it. I'm more than just my job! I'd rather be asked "what do you do for fun?" or "do you have any hobbies right now?"
Sure, each to their own. I feel asking those two you suggested are a bit too nosey when just meeting someone. I'd feel immediately uncomfortable having to open up on something so personal with a stranger. Much rather break the ice talking about my career.
Then why talk to a stranger in this scenario? We converse to get to know one another. If you're at a work function, then sure stick to surface level stuff to just get by with the function. But I hope that's not the limit of your socialization.
One has to start somewhere? OP asked for questions to get to know someone better. They didn't specify how well they know the other person already or the situation. But I hope you can recognise that will vary with each case scenario.
Yeah, I'm already saying the situations can vary