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barbara-pit for Cringetopia users

Also I hope people in here are decent about plurals. r/fakedisordercringe is another one of the "be normal debatebro-l" instances

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[-] Othello@hexbear.net 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

hey comrades, remember self diagnosis is valid. not everyone has years to wait and thousands of dollars to spend on a something that may not improve your life in anyway. there are some states in america where your parents can take your kids away and the state will do it just because you have a diagnosis. Also good luck ever winning sole custody of your kids. And you can get rejected from moving to many countries like new zealand. Not to mention my poc and afab (edit: so the majority of the population) comrades are far far far less likely to be diagnosed properly. diagnoses for adults sometimes just means society gives itself permission to dehumanize you more.

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago

I am self-diagnosed bc if I have a single mental illness, I will not get hormones and DIY might be criminalized as well, either it is or it will be soon, idk rn. eu-cool , folks

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

yes such a good point!!! especially since its an increasing "concern" by terfs to "protect autistic people from trans ideology". trans comrades dont need another reason to be invalidated.

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

I have OSDD (probably), which makes it so easy to invalidate my gender stuff

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

OSDD

so sorry I assumed! Yeah OSDD could also absolutely be used against you too. you are valid and great!

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

af-heart , i also have autism, dw, lol

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

hahaha, good! autism gang! meow-hug

[-] grym@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

Hang on I didn't know about this and i'm in europe, can you explain what this means? Is having a diagnosed mental illness a justification for refusing access to hormones?

[-] Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

Are you really trans? Or is your "dysphoria" just being depressed? Is the kind of thing gatekeeping therapist can throw at you

[-] grym@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

I see yea, i've heard a lot about that. I'm prepared to fight for it, even if I have to present a very cliché image, but i'm not going to show any doubts or I know it's going to be harder.

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

Depends, my country has you at the mercy of wacky therapists and they often use stuff like depression to gatekeep you

[-] Awoo@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Self diagnosis is valid but also a bunch of people aren't actually self-diagnosing they're just using it to be edgy.

They used to say "as an r-slur" but when that became unacceptable they switched to autistic. A lot of the people saying this stuff don't actually genuinely think they're autistic, they're just assholes.

Which is a problem because our autistic friends struggle to recognise it. And they're a vulnerable group for grooming.

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

i agree with everything you said, please read this in a friendly and confused tone. i dont see how that contrast with my original statement. My goal was to make self diagnosed comrades who were feeling insecure from assholes in the post above feel better. the fake disorder crigne sub is harmful imo. there are definitely the keffels of the world and tic tok teens and those people suck but do not invalidate actual autistic individuals self diagnosis.

Which is a problem because our autistic friends struggle to recognise it. And they're a vulnerable group for grooming.

hahaha oh trust me I know. I have been left feeling tricked and hurt quite a few times, I still always believe my comrades unless I have reason not to.

[-] Awoo@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

i dont see how that contrast with my original statement.

I'm not disagreeing with you. Just adding that there's an issue here in that we do need to find a way to counter the assholes somehow while also not invalidating our autistic friends.

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

i see, I agree!

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

Which is a problem because our autistic friends struggle to recognise it. And they're a vulnerable group for grooming.

what do you mean by this exactly and how should the issue be adressed, then, in your opinion?

[-] Awoo@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's similar to the vulnerability that young eggs (trans people that haven't realised it yet) have to grooming by the far right.

They give them attention in a certain set of specific ways and then pipeline them into right wing online spaces and behaviours through various targeted grooming methods. I use the word grooming here because it's specifically the young teens that are most vulnerable to it and the main core of the people targeted.

I don't know how the issue should be addressed. I'm just highlighting it as an issue. We do need to avoid invalidating self-diagnosis autism but also need to counter the shitheads.

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

This is not meant as a rebuke or lecture, mostly thinking aloud.

I am unsure about reclaiming terms from the shitheads. I suppose it is necessary.

Arguments of positionality are a curse and there are counters to them, but they need to be expanded. For example, tokenism and showing how that person is harming their own group would be a start.

Fakeclaiming requires a lot of looking at individual cases to be even semi viable. It is in my experience mostly harmful.

Arguments should be dealt with in a principaled manner while recognizing identities in a way that stops presupposing that Identity X has a right to opinion Y, I think.

This is not meant as a diss, I just kinda feel tired being suspicious all the time and wanted to give some thoughts(funny thing for a 1 month account to say, but I have been around for some time, I just occassionally delete my acc bc of OPsec, believe me 🥺)

[-] Awoo@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

It's ok I understand what you're getting at - trying to think about solutions to the problem while avoiding causing more problems in the process.

I'm somewhat stuck with it. It's easy to see the problem and it's also easy to see how our usual tactics for countering it are insufficient without also hurting actual autistic people. It deserves some longterm thought, perhaps people will eventually start to find some solutions.

[-] vomit_sounds@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I will come back after reading some more stuff

[-] Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago

If you're an undiagnosed adult, then getting a mental disorder diagnosis will not help you if you are functional/conforming within society. Only if you need disability money because you can't exist in capitalism right does it make sense to seek diagnosis.

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