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No, you can say "disengage" and then further replies are against the rules.
That's stupid
Thordros, disengage
That's how it's always worked here.
I just don't get the point. Why bother saying "disengage" when you could just, yah know, stop posting. To me it seems like saying "disengage" rather is just ceasing to reply is still an attempt to get the last word cuz "disengage" has a subtly insulting tone to it, it's a final "fuck you".
It closes a discussion so it's not left hanging. It's a neutral response to just close it with no one feeling pressured to respond. If you don't like it, take it up with the mods.
Okay, but, doesn't it only apply to the current thread? It doesn't really stop other people from replying to other comments you made in the same comment section, or even the same person from replying to you elsewhere, it'd be unreasonable to expect that cuz who the fuck is gonna keep track of which user said "disengage" where and when. If someone was really pestering me I'd just block them.
I'm not bothered enough by it to get into an argument with the mods, since those tend to be pointless, I just don't get the logic beyond it behind a more polite-ish sounding way to end the convo with a "fuck you".
Edit: Also shouldn't it be disengaging since YOURE disengaging? Saying "disengage" sound like you're commanding the other person to disengage, which seems like trying to get the last word in.
Disengage.
It kinda does though. It applies to other comments in the same thread, with other threads I don't think there's a clear rule but if someone keeps telling you to disengage and you keep responding to them, it could be considered crossing a line into personal harassment. Though that was more for when we didn't have a block feature. Really a lot of the logic for it was for before we had that, but the rule still applies.
In bigger threads I think that's a little unreasonable, I don't always keep track of the user names I'm engaging, so it'd totally be possible for someone to tell me to "disengage" them in one comment chain and for me to end up engaging them somewhere else in the same thread without realizing it.
I mean I kinda get it, but idk how necessary it is when we have block now. Also I still think "disengage" has a smarmy, condescending tone to it which still makes it come off as an attempt to have the last work, at least I've seen it used that way. IDK maybe posting like EXITING or something would come off less "fuck you".
I mean tbh if it gives an incentive to end a discussion and "get the last word in" then good. It can be hard for either side to extradite themselves from a toxic argument, and you're still leaving everything they said unanswered, which is hard to do. It's also like, you can read "Disengage" as telling them to disengage but it can be read as "[I] disengage" too so imo it's more neutral than you give it credit for.
I remember I've used "disengage" with a user before at least once, but tbh I don't really remember the context anymore, it blew over and we're cool now. It's less extreme than a block, and it's something to keep in your back pocket for when someone gets a little too intense or dunk brained, but you don't want to cut them off completely.
If you're worried that you can't keep track of all the people telling you to disengage, you can always block them.
Sometimes a lib will make one libby comment and an hour later have a dozen replies from different hexbear users dunking on that comment, even if they don't reply to/engage with anyone here. I guess now if they edit their comment with "disengage" at the end, no more of us can come in to dunk? Idk
ur stupid also disengage
HEH GOTTEM
See my edit, haha!
You win this round, Tequila Sunset.
it's still a rule
Why? What's the logic behind it? Whats the difference between saying "disengage" and just not replying anymore? To me it seems like saying "disengage" is just a more subtle way of ending the convo by saying "fuck you!"
It's usually used when someone won't stop spamming replies
That's only happened to me here like twice
Plus you can block them.