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How do I know if I'm possibly trans (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 weeks ago by dipshit@lemm.ee to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I used to think I'm a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I've always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that's not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.

Recently I met someone new, she's a lot like me in her interests and even her style, and I learned she's transfem and that has made me question whether I might be trans myself. I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns for a bit to see how it feels, and I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns. So now I'm not sure if I am a guy or not anymore. I don't have any discomfort towards my penis and I do think I'd miss it if it were gone, but lately I have been getting discomfort related to my chest, it feels flat and empty, and wrong. Like it should be bigger than it is. It doesn't seem normal for a guy to feel like that.

I really need help, is it normal for a guy to feel like this or does this mean I might be trans?

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[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Ultimately, the only thing that makes someone trans is them deciding that they are. Everyone experiences everything differently, and gender related things are no different. I advise you to slowly explore things and figure out what makes you feel good first, and pick labels as a secondary thing!

A lot of people think dysphoria is mostly genital focused, but it's common to feel fine with what you have and feel like other aspects don't fit you right. There's a very useful resource, genderdysphoria.fyi, that really opened my eyes and helped me wrap my head around it and contextualize experiences for me. I recommend giving it a read through and seeing what you think!