(i ripped this off wikipedia real fast so sorry if it's lib)
In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".
From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").β Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").
editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful
Join our public Matrix server! https://matrix.to/#/#tracha:chapo.chat
As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It's for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
this is so real, I'm having similar struggles. I've even tried asserting that my pronouns are something I care about by getting Visibly Angryβ’ in private at someone who I thought had my back. Then I experienced zero change afterwards and I think that broke me a little bit. It's not enough for me to break off relations, but maybe I wish it could be? Or at least I wish that I had more leverage/autonomy in the situation
I've always kinda been the black sheep weirdo of the family even before coming out so I don't wanna lose Cool Aunt because she's overall really good to me but I feel like I'm always gonna be treated like a big dumb baby with a silly little whacky queer gender thing so idk call them "them" sometimes when you can remember to
I've thought about going by she/her and femming up more than I actually enjoy just to hammer "not a guy" home to people
They/them for me fit best I think but normies suck at it
Neopronouns mite b cool but that'd go over even worse than they/them
Fuck, I dunno. This shit kinda sucks. Must be a breeze being cis, couldn't be me
The struggle is real.
Been thinking about neopronouns too, since they're cool as heck and neither she nor they seem to be quite right for me. But I totally get not even wanting get into that with cissies.
Couldn't be me