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In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").  Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Initial consult for my therapist went well! We scheduled a follow-up, and I am looking forward to it!

I also got a bra that fits. The cup is a bit big, but I have some sort of mastia due to my weight so I should be able to fill it out with some inserts. Idk how things are going to go as I lose weight/start HRT, but it's affirming for now. With that, I am working on assembling another outfit. I want to try something goth/punk. I will try to figure out some normal femme clothes eventually, but if it's in private for now then I might as well have fun as a baby trans. I also want to go to some metal shows again and it would be nice to not seem like a square.

[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

if you want them to, your goth/punk clothes also can be your normal femme clothes sans-wink

any thoughts on what you want to go for? goth/punk fashion is my thing so i’d love to bounce ideas.

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Well, I have this (thrift shopped) black leather jacket. I was inspired by Vera Drew's outfit in this video (invidious link), and I was thinking of the same sort of mesh/fishnet shirt. I believe the tee is from Das Bootleg, so I could do that or another top. Would be fun to wear the mesh shirt over a brassiere or crop top, but I don't think I can pull it off right now due to belly fat. For the bottom, I was thinking cut-off black shorts (either denim or canvas) or a skirt. I have a skirt, and for the black shorts it should be easy enough to find either some shorts or pants to cut down. For shoes, it'd have to be some sort of black boots. Then I guess it's figuring out accessories.

Looking at that, idk how goth/punk that actually is. Laying it out, it certainly doesn't seem super ostentatious, but I also don't want to spend a ton of money since I am working on loosing weight anyways.

Aside: I almost got a mesh shirt a couple years ago when I put together a Harry Dubois cosplay for Halloween. In the future, Rule 63 Harry is a going to be fun. I still have the faux snake-skin heels for it.

[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

honestly that sounds like a fantastic everyday outfit with some alternative flair to it. cutting pants to make your own shorts is definitely the punk move, lfg. and i love mesh shirts, though i don’t wear them super often because sensory-wise they’re a bit difficult for me. another goth/punk diy that everyone does is to cut a hole in fishnet leggings to make fishnet sleeves, i have a pair like that. it’s good as a layering piece under shirts but it can be a bit uncomfortable so depending on your tolerance for sensory stuff it may not be for you. black boots are just a good staple to have and i wear mine pretty much daily, they’re not necessarily “alt” by themselves but they always complete a goth/punk look. i also think crop tops and bralettes look good on everyone no matter their size. it took a while for me to get comfortable with showing my midriff bc i have some belly fat around there that i used to be very insecure about, but now i love wearing crop tops in the summer. crop tops aren’t only for people with flat stomachs, and i’ve seen many people without flat stomachs make incredible looks with them!

for accessories, silver jewelry is a classic. i think sword earrings would look amazing with this outfit. if you’re up for it, spiked bracelets and chokers will really make the look read even more punk. you can also think about hair accessories, like hair clips for example. i personally really like to layer necklaces, i go for maximalism basically and it always makes a look read more alternative. i actually will dress in very fancy or even “corporate” outfits, throw on a spiked choker and bracelets and some smudgy black eyeshadow, and boom: i look punk.

idk how much you want to customize your clothes, but customizing leather jackets is a classic punk move. you can paint the back of it and/or sew on some patches. i’ve also customized skirts and shorts before. my favorite pair of black denim shorts has some hand-painted band patches and a few silver studs that i added. but customizing clothes is a whole separate topic that i could get into further, just because it’s something i personally love doing.

i hope this isn’t too much, i just love alternative fashion so much and i could honestly keep going. idk if you work or go to school at a place with a strict dress code; i fortunately do not so i can wear my weird clothes to class. its so much fun and dressing in goth/punk clothes is genuinely something that is gender-affirming to me. that may not be the case for you, idk, but i still hope you have fun experimenting!

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 5 points 3 weeks ago

Another inspiration for the punk outfit is that I was looking on Amazon for a choker that would fit me without an extender, and I found a set of studded ones with matching bracelets, so that's accounted for. For jewelry, where do you look/shop for that sort of stuff? As for earrings, I need to find a time to get my ears pierced by a reputable piercer, but I am also job hunting soon so I may wait a bit on that.

Customizing clothes sounds really fun! Will need to look into that.