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And I'm married, so I'm kind of asexual (at work), so we're ought to be friends!
It's probably a way for her not to be flirted with. To protect herself. So I'd say something reassuring like that.
Really fucking arrogant/egocentric to assume every guy out there is trying to flirt with you, no?
Like, I'm gay, if someone said that to me though I'd be tempted to report them to HR for a hostile workplace interaction.
They're literally passing judgement on you by appearance (what else was disclosed in that scenario? literally nothing), and that's not ok.
If you're a woman and have to be near an unknown man, it's safe to assume the worst. It's a sane reaction.
They're your coworker for Christ's sake. Why assume the worst?
Have you even met people?
You mean normal people who introduce themselves to their team instead of being brash defensive assholes for no specific reason?
Yeah, I have. In fact I've never met someone as rude as the person you're all vehemently defending.
As a guy, I have never had a job where I didn't witness sexual harassment in one from or another.
Just yesterday a coworker mentioned we had a new hire starting and was wondering if they were going to be hot or not. Poor girl hasn't even had her first day and the idiots are already lining up to hit on her, even without knowing ANYTHING except she is female.
It's pretty safe to assume the worst.
It is not "pretty safe to assume the worst", it's an HR nightmare waiting to happen. Stop giving bad advice.
Not giving advice, just explaining. But you obviously don't get it. And if you don't get it, you're part of the problem.
Lmao.
Because male coworkers harassing female coworkers is common.
But in this case the harassment is from the female coworker. And you seem totally fine with that. Gotta love double standards.
This is no harassment. Why would it be offensive to say someone something personal?
Because the only reason to, is if she assumed the worst, it's basically implying that anon would have harassed her if she hadn't expounded on her personal sex life without even introducing herself.
It demeans and treats men like psychopaths, when in fact the psychopathic behaviour is that paranoia that leads to rude, aggressive actions from her (and you too apparently, would you seriously say "I'm lesbian" without even saying your name first??)
Not would but could. And if anon had harassed her, it would have been probably no consequence. She probably lived something like that, and possibly more than once. And that's enough to justify her reaction.
Imagine living in a world where everyone with blue eyes could hurt anyone freely, including you. Not all blue-eyed person will be willing to hurt you, but after being hurt a few times, you'll consider every blue-eyed person as a possible threat, and you'll act accordingly. “Not all men” are willing to hurt women, but all men are possible threats.
Thus, it's no paranoia. It's logical and sane.
I'm a man, so I couldn't say that but I wouldn't feel aggressed or insulted if a woman did that to me.
I raise two daughters, and I want them to grow freely and securely. It's not the case today and I'll help and support the women who try to make the world a better place for them! Even if that means that lesbians say their lesbianness to me before their name…