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I honestly think that the there's no real point in having it around. If you want to end a comment chain just don't reply. If a user is spamming a comment then that already violates Hexbear TOC. The only thing "Disengage" does is allow that user to have the final word. If you try to make any point beside "disengage" then I feel you're abusing it to end a discussion without potential backlash. In this scenario, you're literally still engaging with the other user but you don't want them to engage back.
Disengaging should either require you don't respond to the final comment or it should allow the other user to respond to the points made in the disengage comment.
I think you're right, but we're talking just "disengage" not "here's a 500 word essay why you're wrong now disengage". Another user suggested a nicer way to put it, and I think it's fair.
I admit, it can be a passive aggressive way to end a convo. But a final end to a convo can be good for mental health. Like you're right but there's some good to it as well.
Now that I've typed that all out, please DISENGAGE from me!
this is explicitly the case actually, though enforcement varies ofc
The argument is some people don't have the self control the extricate themselves from toxic conversations, so giving them a way to, albeit ungracefully, have the last word is the only way to stop them from stupidly getting their BP up over an angry internet shitfit.
I'll be honest, I don't think we should allow someone to be passive aggressive just to save them the stress. If they're going to rage over the internet they'll find something to be mad about eventually.
I mean, see my other comment for how I think we could improve thus