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Oh, it's totally a thing. I'm a woman and short, so I'm below the eye line of most men, and I've had men plow right over me on crowded sidewalks or at events. Most men expect the woman to yield in that situation and they'll get annoyed if you don't. It actually is surprising when a man moves out of the way, though I don't know if it shows on my face.

I don't have kids either, but my siblings and friends do, and kids today aren't just seeing a little porn. It's not like Playboys in the woods or a single 2 MB image downloaded for hours on dial-up. It's pretty violent sexual activities in video, like strangling or surprise anal sex. Even twenty years ago, my first sexual partners had moves they picked up from porn, but they weren't violent. Talking to young women today, the moves their partners are picking up and have been normalized by porn tend to be violent. Like, I never had a friend in college tell me that her boyfriend slapped her during sex and called her a dirty whore while she cried, but that seems to be a pretty common experience today.

The issue is that even older teens don't have the life experience to contextualize what they see in porn and separate it from how you act in real life. If you're into slapping people, that's fine, but you've got to talk to your partner about it before you do to. If you're getting your sex education from porn, then you don't get the people skills part that's important for successful relationships in real life.

This study touches on a lot of what I'm mentioning here, and they found a correlation between violence in teen relationships and porn viewing. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6751001/

So, yeah. I don't know what the solution is. I don't think it's sending a copy of your ID to a porn site, which seems incredibly risky for other reasons. I think sex and relationship education would help a lot, but that only connects with the kids who listen. Obviously there's a parenting component there, but I don't know how many parents are mentally health enough to have those conversations honestly. 🙃 Probably not the ones who wrote this bill.

Mine is in German and I'm an American who does not speak German. At least not that fluently. I am using Jerboa.

Yeah, you should be aware of the way people talk about cities in frankly bigoted ways if you don't want to be perceived as a bigot. Talking about cities being dangerous or scary is a coded way to denigrate Black people. Like, when people talk about Chicago being dangerous, they're specifically referring to neighborhoods with Black majority populations and generalizing it to the entire city. That's what this meme is about, not traffic.

Meh. I live out in the country, and the only scary thing about cities to me is the traffic. Even NYC was fine outside of Times Square, and I took public transit. The only place I really hated was Orlando, but that was because of the exhausted Disney kids. It was overwhelming for everyone.

He has cancer and is undergoing chemotherapy.

The Fenelon elevator in Dubuque is pretty neat. I can't say it's as exciting as a roller coaster, but the views of the Mississippi are incredible. https://www.fenelonplaceelevator.com/

The National Mississippi River Museum and Aquarium in Dubuque is interesting too. They have old river boats there in the summer that you can tour, and the inside exhibits on the geology and wildlife of the Upper Mississippi are incredible. Really great interactive exhibits for kids, but I also enjoyed it as an adult. https://www.rivermuseum.com/

Condolences to your friend and their family. That's heartbreaking. I hope they're doing as well as can be expected.

I sew, and I wouldn't even bother looking for linen in your local fabric stores. Most everything is going to be mixed with rayon and too narrow for sheets. That's especially true if your local fabric store is Joann. I can recommend some online retailers, but my usual go-to in the past has been Ukrainian linen, and... uh, you know.

For your current sheets, it will take time for them to soften, but if you wash them on hot and tumble dry them, they'll soften faster. There are multiple types of linen, and there's a variety called softened linen where it's been basically been beaten to soften the linen fibers and simulate wear. Linen that hasn't been softened just hasn't gone through that process and will be scratchier.