mapiki

joined 2 years ago
[–] mapiki 5 points 1 week ago

My native French speaking mom will occasionally address my non-french speaking husband in French without realizing unless I tell her and even then she only knows because I've told her.

[–] mapiki 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I wouldn't choose Twilight, but I get the same feeling when I'm reading any romance novel. Not much substance but my mood is ten times better.

[–] mapiki 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Eve - 200 million years of evolution using a female perspective

Actually finished feeling happy to be born female which working in a male dominated industry (engineering) and enjoying male dominated hobbies (skiing, climbing, backpacking) often leaves me only surrounded by guys and feeling 'wrong' to not be able to match their ways of doing things instead of able to focus on my unique abilities.

In the middle of The Way of Kings in anticipation of reading book 5.

[–] mapiki 2 points 3 weeks ago

My extended family is in Europe.

My sister is in Tennessee. I'm in Utah. Our parents are in California. We're all a time zone apart. I'm an 11 hour drive from my parents. Or a 2 ish hour direct flight. 5-6 hour trip with connections and such. They're an hour from the nearest airport. My sister has a harder time making the trip.

Everyone I work with is much better to family and it's a little strange.

The lack of PTO is especially rough when my family is abroad.

[–] mapiki 9 points 7 months ago (3 children)

I've read over 50 books since the start of the year. I only buy a book after I've read it 2-3 times. How? Sign up at your local library! (And keep signing up wherever you can get proof of residence; I've managed to collect 4 library cards.) And then find whatever system they have for borrowing e-books (mine work well with Libby). I've found that I almost never lack for books. A kindle or e-reader could be a good investment to limit screen time; you can download library e books onto them auite often.

Browsing the physical library is more fun than browsing online for books. Just pick the covers you like, check if the summary sounds fun, and give it a shot. Never feel guilty if you don't read a book you checked out or put a hold on. Sometimes it just doesn't sound as good two days later.

[–] mapiki 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This happened in 2023... So a year ago now. This is what happens when California gets a wet year.

[–] mapiki 65 points 9 months ago

"a protest against Dutch subsidies and tax breaks to companies linked to fossil fuel industries"

We can do all the activities you mention with a much lower impact. And fighting climate change allows many farmers in developing countries to actually survive. (Think of the problems with cocoa harvests failing or with Mongolian herders losing herds three years in a row instead of once a decade.)

[–] mapiki 6 points 10 months ago

Yes. It's always a good question to ask yourself:

Would you rather be effective or be right?

[–] mapiki 8 points 10 months ago

Thanks. I've been very angry out of a feeling of complete helplessness. I'm reading a book about data bias in relation to gender (invisible women) and it's hitting a lot of sore points that come up being in an office that's 10% female... There's four of us.

[–] mapiki 2 points 10 months ago

Hehehehehe sounds like satire as you point this out to how often the opposite happens

[–] mapiki 5 points 10 months ago

Hey! I'm part of a trend!

Keeping it under 10-12k total. Biggest splurges so far are 1.5k custom tailored three piece suit and 1.6k for photographer to cover the entire day without hour limits. Food will be about half the total cost.

But grocery store flowers, digital invites, thrifted dress, basic rings, picnic area ceremony and restaurant rehearsal. No DJ. No alcohol. No florist.

[–] mapiki 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)
  1. A house is not an asset if it's the one place you can live cost-free in retirement.
  2. We all pay into the system with our taxes - including someone who earned enough to afford a home. Why should anyone not benefit from the taxes they paid?
  3. Anyone can be sick and in long-term care as they age, including ourselves. As we age, we may not be able to keep working. Those costs add up fast in our healthcare system. And we don't get to make those choices up front for ourselves or our families. The bills come months if not years later. No one says what you owe until it's too late. Why should anyone pay a cost they weren't told would be coming?

I can't argue that the way the US provides many services based off wealth is fair - I believe we should have a universal system that we all benefit from. Why should someone making less than me get better services than me because my job offers worse insurance than they get? We should all benefit.

But, if the choice is that no one benefits or that of our current system. I'll choose our current system. Because I don't know if I'll be the one on the other side 40 years from now.

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Career Options - Civil (self.engineering)
submitted 10 months ago by mapiki to c/engineering@lemmy.ml
 

Hi all,

What are directions I could go as a civil/geotechnical engineer where there would be less focus on work being quantified through billable hours?

I've got interest in code and data visualization. I love getting outside. I'm about 5 years into my career with a master's degree.

Any thoughts/opinions/experiences to share?

 

When facing a big task... Just take it one bite at a time!

 

I don't even know if it's 'churning' yet until I've cancelled and gotten the bonus again in a few years.

But I had the 60k miles post to my united account and it felt like magic! Almost done with the spend on a second chase card and working to get my fiance his united card. It's been a frustrating application process because they made him go through some Identity checking procedures and he's been not very excited about the whole thing unlike me.

 

I can't wait to pull my dress out and try them together.

Also grateful that she purchased them for me <3

Now I need to not wear them for an entire year so I don't ruin them!!!

(Also, forgive my toe nails. My backcountry ski boots did not treat my toes well this past spring.)

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happy family things (self.weddings)
 

I didn't think this would make me so happy but my sister and fiance were chatting in our family chat and he was talking about joining her to watch some violin videos on YouTube of her favorite violinist.

And she texted in there with my parents and him "Sis, marry this person! He's pretty cool."

And it means a lot to me that my little sister approves of my boo.

 

She was giving me some serious attitude. I decided I'd crack open the door even if it meant heating up the apartment a little. I assume she's come back in before actually getting heat stroke?

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buncomfortable (discuss.online)
 

Why are they like this every time!

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Theodore circa 2021 (discuss.online)
 

I miss this guy. I hope he's doing well and finally 100% healthy across the rainbow bridge.

(You can see his sniffles on his left side... Despite the multiple rounds of antibiotics we tried.)

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a friend made an album! (open.spotify.com)
 

I'm super excited for him and want to share it with at least one other person.

So far: Oh Baby and Cyanide are my favorites.

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supervising bedtime (discuss.online)
 

Now get back into bed hooman. You must go bring home the cilantro.

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we be chilling (discuss.online)
 

I'm aiming for one a day to get this corner of the internet started. But I looked up from scrolling on my phone and there's...

The One The Only THE BUN.

All hail the princess blossom butt.

 

!rabbits@lemmy.world

They are just vegetarian cats after all.

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