[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

The original

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

They call it pop here in North-East of England as well.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

I wasn't a black out drunk, mainly cause it didn't take much to make me drunk, but I couldn't stop once I started either. First I hold out on drinking during the week, then I'd have drinks on the evening, then a drink before work then decided to quit before it got further out of hand.

I hope you find the motivation to quit cause honestly drinking is such a waste of time. I genuinely believe all you need is to believe you can.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

I enjoy washing dishes, but only once I've started or when I don't have to do it... So I try and trick myself into thinking I'll just wash a few things, half-assing something is better than not doing it at all, right? I end up usually washing most or all of it anyway. I can do it scatterbrained, like wash some, dry some, put some away, wash a few more. I don't have to focus on just washing. And I'll sing along to the radio and look through the kitchen window and see what the dog is doing.

I also put the dish washing liquid into a pump dispenser and inside the handle of the dish sponge to make the process easier.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

I work in a care home. I also have that thought every single day.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

Stimulate me but don't over stimulate me, maybe?

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it's getting back to normal.

Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don't pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I'll catch up on sleep and housework.

I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don't do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I'll go out when I'm on holiday.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

I've got the same issue but with all black socks

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...but at the same time want to hold on to useless stuff or hobby stuff you don't have the energy to do. I feel like if I didn't have so much stuff I wouldn't have all the clutter to make me feel anxious, like there's just so much stuff. I have a very small wardrobe (well, boxes of clothes since I haven't had the energy to go an buy a wardrobe) with mainly work related clothes, but that's the only thing that I've managed to keep minimal and tidy.

I know the clutter is mainly stuff I could try and keep in trays/open boxes to help maintain it but also going shopping for the right kind of trays seems overwhelming.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

The only meal prep I used to do was big soups, easy to freeze and get different size of meals. I'd normally just peel and cut up potatoes, throw in a pot, boil, add frozen veg, add fried mince and seasonings.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

To be honest I'm not a native English speaker so your advice is probably more useful anyway. My husband is British and has studied plenty of languages, finding Swedish and Norwegian definitely the easiest to pick up. Romance languages have more complicated grammar but you'll find a lot more TV and movies to watch to casually pick up a bit more of the language, which I find useful because I only speak English as well as I do from watching a lot of TV (first with subs) when I was younger.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

Learning a new language. You learn a bit about how languages work, understand other cultures a bit better, usually learn new vocabulary for your native language, understand the relationship between different languages, learn the roots of loan words and generally helps your brain stay healthy, even by only studying the basics.

[-] kani@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

I'm sensitive to rejection so both in person and online I try to be agreeable and also find common ground with people. If someone's stressed out at work and takes it out on me I tend to give them a bit of time to cool down then come and apologise and that seems to go a long way. It may seem silly but I think people refuse to apologise cause they don't feel they're in the wrong but I find it calms people down quickly and then I can bring up my viewpoint highlighting that it's just how I view things and that doesn't make their view any less legit.

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She won't be ignored.

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