My comrade in veganism: this is not the way. Kindness is the only way your message will be heard. If Daryl Davis (a black man) can convince hundreds of KKK members to leave the organization by befriending them and forging relationships, sometimes over years, then you can tone it down and be kind to someone who doesn't share your views and wants to eat a cheeseburger. Doesnt make them "right", but your approach just makes you insufferable in the eyes of people you don't agree with, which is almost everyone. Trust me, I've been doing it for decades and you are not setting a good example for the chill vegans out there. Calm down, love people regardless of their differences, there is enough division in the world. Do not turn your ethics into religious fundamentalism. You can control your behavior and you can be a good ambassador. In short: don't be a smug asshole that thinks they are superior for any reason.

I'm definitely not trying to victim blame by any means, my apologies if it came off that way. You're absolutely right, sounds like the driver was 100% to blame and cyclist happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

I did not intend to imply that this particular accident was the result of a skill issue , and looking back I can see where it might sound like that. I know far too many strong cyclists that will never be the same after accidents in Boston.

The amount of disctracted drivers on the road is scary for sure. I love riding in the city but I'm also thankful that it is no longer my job.

Pour one out, always terrible to hear. To anyone that needs to hear this : don't ride in the bike lane when it is not the safest place to be. If cars don't like it, fuck em, they aren't gonna understand traffic from your perspective anyway. (I happen to know somerville and boston biking very well) It's good that more bike lanes= more bikes on the road but if you're a strong/skilled cyclist the bike lane should often be ignored.

Forreal, longtime vegan here.... Vegans (online mostly) annoy me more than most people. I swear we aren't all jerks! I'm probably a major sell out, I don't even have a problem with hunters.

The answer is here, but you just can't fight physics. Light needs to come through a lens and hit a sensor. There has to be some significant distance, in relation to the thickness of the phone for this to work. Until camera technology advances and somehow produces a comparatively sharp image, we will be stuck with the bump. It'll happen at some point I'm sure, but there is a whole bunch of tech that will need to change to get there.

Yes. Fearmonger more. You keep up that driving! The rest of us will take advantage of more spare time to read while we cruise smoothly by the cars sitting in traffic. Truly a nightmare.

It wasn't milk

Where you been the last 10 years my guy? Don't make harmless political satire shirts because it might be a catalyst for violence?

Better to eat crow than the shit we'd be forced to swallow in a second trump term! Forreal though, thank you for coming out and saying it.

Nobody needs to say "I told ya so" but clearly things are moving in an energetic direction, and those of us that are sane in this country should all be pleased! Keep dunking on the fascists and speaking the obvious truth to these morons!

I appreciate this reply, thank you, it's pretty accurate. I can even see it but in the moment it is hard to not get reactive around these hot button issues.

I don't think she intends to be malicious, but I don't know how to categorize this as not deceptive. Her standards for the transparency she demands of me is quite high, so it doesn't feel reciprocal at all.

You have hit the nail on the head as far as describing the whole identity crisis that happens as a stay at home mom. She was far more independent, we lived in another city where we had more support from friends, and in general there have been a plethora of stressful life challenges that we have faced along the way. Mental health has been a big challenge for sure.

This isn't lost on me, I just don't always know a skillful way to address it in the moment.

We are not officially married, but I certainly agree it's insane to not have transparency in a committed relationship. What's the point of being together if they can't even trust me with information?

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