[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

I loved them, I miss them dearly, but no, I don't think they'll come back.

A lot has changed and the internet is not the same, for better and for worse. For one, it's just a lot bigger. You'd think that'd make it easier, but it seems to make it harder. There's too much noise for the communities to stand out, so what usually happens is one or two get huge and the others dwindle and die. Even just look at Lemmy, through no fault of your own, Beehaw is becoming one of the largest instances and it requires active work to spread the weight across the rest of the federation. People gravitate I guess.

Plus, because it's so much bigger, there's less of an identity in the spaces that do survive. Post in any reddit thread, then go to another. Chances are nobody'll be the same (except for a few superusers) so there's no real sense of belonging or community that the old forums had. Back then you trolled your friends, not strangers.

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A somewhat pertinent song given the recent turmoil involving Reddit.

(Off-topic: What a brilliant job Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 1+2 did filling the soundtrack's gaps with modern songs that fit the tone perfectly)

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Been on a big Dire Straits kick lately and have this song stuck in my head all the time.

[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago

Kids have always had wild career dreams, it's not new it's just a different medium. It's fine. I'm not sure it's a conscious decision to escape the grind though. I grew up with kids who wanted to be movie stars or athletes. Why? Because they idolised movie stars and athletes and want to be like them. It's what they're exposed to the most. Now kids are exposed to influencers the most, so they wanna be one too.

I wanted to be a train driver 🚂

[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago

If a community exists solely to hate on others, even as a joke, eventually it won't be a joke.

Maybe I just don't get the appeal though.

[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago

We get a lot of dandelions here anyway so they'd probably end up mingling whether intentional or not - Now I did hear a while ago that all the parts of the dandelion are edible, and that the flowers are delicious fried, but I'm a little afraid of eating things from the lawn because the neighbourhood has a lot of roaming cats and they.. use.. my garden frequently, which puts me off nibbling on them.

I was thinking of intentionally growing them in a raised planter though.

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I've heard they're better for pollinators, are more drought resistant, and are easier to maintain.

It's hard to see a downside.

Has anyone here made the change? How'd it go?

[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Some really good points I hadn't considered there.

I think it's important that the medical professionals do not use such terminology and instead try to be as neutral as possible, e.g. "coping with" or "receiving treatment for". If a patient wants to say they're fighting cancer, that's up to the patient. For some it might help them feel like they have a bit of control over a situation where they're powerless, for others it might make it worse.

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New to gardening, spotted the first strawberry today. I've killed so many houseplants over the years, It's a great feeling to actually have something grow.

[-] honeyontoast@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago

A common theme here is being able to spend more time with partners, I never considered how much time you're forced to spend apart when you work 100% office based. That's definitely a huge upside to WFH.

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I've worked from home a few years now, and whilst the upsides are well known I've personally found some challenges there too. Have you experienced anything similar? How did you deal with it?


My tale:

When the UK went into lockdown (along with everyone else) in early 2020 I started working from home full-time. For the first year I was with the same team I'd worked with for years whilst in the office, so nothing really changed except my location.

I switched jobs mid-2021 and the new team was much smaller. I work as a software developer, and this team was a grand total of three people including myself. We didn't have many meetings, only one a week, and except for being assigned new work I never interacted with anyone. It took a big toll on my mental health and I quit after three months.

I took an extended break from software development and started working on a plant nursery, driving tractors and tending plants - it was so much fun, but paid very little and ate into my savings a lot.

Went back to software development last year and thankfully manage things much better. I'm not a very social person, so it was surprising how important socialisation was to my mental wellbeing. I'm now part of quite a large team that speaks regularly, and when I next change jobs I know that this is something I need to look for.

I also have a garden now, so when the call of the wild hits me I go outside and sniff my tomato plants. I do miss driving tractors though.

honeyontoast

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