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It's a reply of children because adults want to be angry with them, not find out why they did something, so people like you tell them to "just be responsible" etc without ever listening or offering support.

So if an adult wants to yell at you, you say "i dont know" and let the angry windbag rant and rave. From the kid's POV the adult/teacher don't care about the reason (y'all usually don't) you just want to have your ego bruised by a whole ass child dealing with whole ass life not about you being late.

But "i dont know" is easier than "mom has a new boyfriend who keeps me up all night and i sleep late" you still probably wouldn't listen or would then tell the child how they should handle the neglect of their education by their parents themselves, rather than show empathy and understanding.

Because it's about them listening to you, not about them being tiny people with no emotional regulation or rights trying to navigate a world where they are treated like little adults with zero power to escape abusive situations in school or at home of their own power, unlike you an adult who isnt the property of your parents.

But yeah they're just stupid little twerps looking to pull one over on you, right? They dont have complex lives outside of their time with you, they spend all day making sure how to make you feel disrespected by showing up late!

And that is why you get "i dont know".

It sounds like you wont listen to reason, if you dont understand or can't experience a situation yourself.

That means you can only work with or bw friends with people like you. That's a very small window of tolerance.

Sounds like a rigged game: if someone wants to feel like the blame is being shifted.

What good is blame anyway if you want to fix the problem in the first place? I'll never get it. It feels primally cathartic to blame a person, but it fixes the issues to find the reason.

Hey you know what, when you're in love, whatever works. So many people are lonely, at least they found each other. 🥹

This is how playing Pokemon Scarlett feels

RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected... On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don't know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn't want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It's been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩

Flashbacks to when only the teacher and I understood A Modest Proposal and not being able to explain to anyone else in that class that i was appreciating that he was sassing the english NOT the actual idea of eating babies. 🙃

It will do discord? That's amazing, I will have to look back into it. Discord has been awful for a while, but getting people to switch is impossible. 😩

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I haven't thought of those apps for years, I used Pidgin! I had to look up the program name.

One thing that helped me was watching youtubers play the game doing weird challenges. When i saw what experts were able to do (and often times how many mistakes they could work around) i realized that the game is waaaay more "frozen in time" than any Harvest Moon game was.

I think there's legitimately only like one or two thing that can be missed at all, and it's like one cutscene (that doesn't cut you out from anything with the npc).

For me the trick is the clock, I personally found it very intimidating! I found the best routine is to check the tv and see what your luck is for the day, check the calendar and see of i want to give someone a gift for their birthday, and then plan what i do for the day around that.

I don't personally take up the quests for the npcs because i don't know the map well and it felt more stressful. They don't seem to care! Chatting with them every day I can and giving them something they don't hate for their birthdays, I was already getting random npcs up to three hearts not even trying.

I could chat with you all day about it and this is already long enough, but i just have to remind myself the town is like a little special place just for me, almost completely frozen in time waiting to walk forward at my speed. ☺️

I didn't realize there was deep lore in an egg_irl post, i took it as the comic it was.

Without that background information, (that is not included unless i stalk the OP, which doesn't feel like it would endear anyone to my participation) it feels close to a comic could reinforce the "you can't win trying to be supportive to queer people these days" energy since there's nothing clear about there being a boundary made by the other person in the comic? Maybe there's something i missed on the lemmy ui, I'm willing to admit!

As an older queer i am not quite sure when we decided clothing meant anything (again) since growing up it was something we already tried to work on in the queer community, just look into lesbian spaces and their attempts to uncouple femininity from being required to dress up. Have binary identities and enforcing trans people to present a particular way backfired into hyper gendered expressions being required?

Another question is how can the community help individuals vulnerable to invalidation of parts of their identity? I know everyone needs support as a whole and in general in their lives. The ability to stand strong in yourself in the storm can't be manufactured without a foundation, and how do we help newbies find that with the atmospheres as tense as they are, even in queer spaces?