Pollux

It's often good! giggle

Only monogamous relationship for me, yeah.

I did try other options, friends with benefits and stuff, but nothing actually compares to me, not even close, with the partner who intimately knows me, cares about me on all levels, and knows of all the things that turn me on.

Besides, sex in relationships is a continuation of a deeper feeling, a way to express love and a special kind of gentleness. Yeah, I'd say sex is very romantic to me.

But nothing bad with other options if you're into it! Monogamous folks are often portrayed as boring puritans who tell people what to do, so I'll stress that - you do you, but my drive works this way. And boy can monogamous sex get kinky...

No, as I said, I do not welcome hookups and would not appreciate if she'd go randomly fucking with everyone before dating me.

I said already I don't have insecurity about past partners or retroactive jealousy. It's just gross to me.

Yes, that's what I did.

I explained my issue to her in a gentle way and offered the condoms I bought myself. She immediately accepted it, to which I'm thankful.

Also, right on spot, I do have diagnosed OCD.

I see, interesting!

Also, I wish you to recover as much as possible

That's my point - those are not "unexpected hook-ups" (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.

Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.

Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.

So much gentle love between you two!

Wishing you all the happiness <3

Bigger guy with reasonably small moobs - enjoy having her grab them, but hate nipple play.

Heavily doubling down on everything you say here!

I am big, too, and that DOES NOT MEAN I AM NOT GENTLE!

Those who know me close, of course, know me as a cuddly and kind and gentle person; girlfriend knows more about it, including sexual stuff, and loves me for that, to which I am very grateful.

Interesting you mentioned your wife drove to see you - I just recently came back from seeing my girl, around 700 miles away, and finally, October to November, she will be able to move in with me. You just added some bright hopes :)

I have nothing against sex being "dirty, smelly, awkward, weird, funny, and stupid". I'm all for a natural passion that is not a refined picture, nor am I all puritan. In fact, I'd very much allow her to use my toothbrush and pillow should she want it (hot if I think about it), but I'd rather give her what pleases her best :D

I know someone has been there before, I just don't need to be reminded of that with items that were actively used in such process. And yeah, as a fairly monogamous keeper, I'd rather not have someone after unless there's a good reason for us to break up.

Also, yes, on your point, "no" means "no", and I'd rather have other words from her should we go full BDSM. This would otherwise introduce a lot of anxiety about hurting her, even if it's CNC.