"merely bitching"
Chetzemoka
Excuse me? I have to save "incels" or the fascists will win? What is this nonsense?
Incel is not a word I would ever use to describe even one individual, let alone an entire group. You know why? Because I have more respect for people than that. Maybe you should too.
You literally said "men are helpless" and yes, you are correct that I am unable to help anyone who claims that they are helpless.
*citation needed lmao
Oh wait, here you go:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4880255/
https://www.epi.org/publication/unions-and-well-being/
Unions are good for the public WHO ARE CONSUMERS, you muppet.
raised on the values of romantic success being a requirement for a non-failed life
Literally having a conversation down thread with someone who thinks like this. It just mystifies me. I'm single by choice. I'm not asexual, I'm reasonably attractive. But I'll tell you I learned the very hard way that romantic relationships will not just magically fill that empty hole in your heart. You gotta learn how to do that for yourself even if you're married.
Bro, you are going to have a difficult life, if you think of existing in your community as solitary confinement. I'd advise you to go get involved in something. Go find a maker space to volunteer at, volunteer at the library, talk to your neighbors, join some kind of outdoor activity group.
You can do all of this while ALSO trying to date. You can (and should) do this kind of stuff even after you get married. You can't just sit around feeling bitter and expect a relationship to solve that for you. That right there is a perfect recipe for a relationship that will fail. You have to be your own person even when you're in a relationship.
There's more to "being social" than just finding a person to have sex with you and calling it a day.
Please point to exactly where I said that. It's fine to want a romantic relationship. But if anyone - man or woman or anything in between - defines their entire self-worth on that one single thing, then they're going to have a very bad time in life. Relationships end. People die. If the only thing you can see yourself as is the partner to another person and you lose (or can't get) that other person, then you're lost.
Work on being whole yourself and defining your value to and for your own self. Work, art, skilled hobbies, charity, friends, family. All of these things can provide value to your community. Find self worth outside of romantic relationships is the best advice for anyone in the world, even people who are currently in romantic relationships.
Tiny thing move fast, therefore fun to chase. That's all really.