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[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

I got a new used lawnmower this week and a post hole digger for my tractor which will be fun to play with. I got the mower stuck a couple of times because parts of my yard are a swampy mess but it's easy enough to rescue with the aforementioned tractor.

On a more sour note, I'm probably going to lose my job today which sucks, I have a history of mental health issues and my job requires me to carry a pistol, I thought I had the fortitude to not think about it being there but I don't. I talked to a doctor about my issues carrying and my ability to carry was revoked so out the door I go.

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Good on you for doing the right thing and prioritizing your safety. You're right, there are other jobs out there better suited to where you're at.

Takes some sand to recognize the danger here and adjust as necessary, even if it creates temporary difficulties. This, my friends, is manning up.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 12 points 6 months ago

That's life, at the end of the day I chose mental health over a job. There will be other jobs.

[–] Akasazh@feddit.nl 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

my job requires me to carry a pistol,

Unless you're in the police or military that is such a weird sentence.

[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

Close, security guard.

[–] Coskii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Other than a rather extreme level of boredom with work and life afterward, it is going just fine.

I don't know when life got like this.. I'm saving and budgetting so hard there isn't much wiggle room for anything else. Saving up for a house and all that entails is such a pain.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Would it be worth lowering your savings slightly so you have a little fun money?

Props for sticking to a budget though. It can be hard.

[–] Coskii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I have a few extra expenses at the moment which are basically eating up that fun money and I'm still recovering from a year of my SO being careless with our credit card.

Also, it's not like I'm doing the 'broke college student' lifestyle, I do fairly well for myself and do get to indulge in some lavishness here and there. It's just the mindset of each dollar spent that way is another one I need to earn later that really drags everything else down. My main issue is that I don't really leave the house except for work, food, or other errands. Anything of that nature is a bit too large of a dent for me to even want to do without feeling buyer's remorse afterward.

On the plus side I thought today was Tuesday, so I have that going for me.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ugh. I hope you meet your goals soon.

[–] Coskii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm saving about 1k a month. Which means I should be in the positive in another 5 months, and back to house ready in 15. There are two free weeks in a year though, so that helps with the bill cycles.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 months ago

That's awesome! I don't know what your region is, but it sounds like the Canadian (and US?) economy may be slowing down, so perhaps house prices will fall a bit by the time you're ready to look.

Best of luck.

[–] orangeNgreen@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago

I’m a month and a half away from a vacation. Eye on the prize.

[–] doublejay1999@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ive got a cold and no one gives a shit, except my 89 year old mom.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 2 points 6 months ago

Sorry to hear

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Started off with a 40 km there-and-back walk from my home to a town on the outskirts of my city on Sunday. One of the weird little goals on my bucket list, been riding that high through the rest of my week so far.

[–] dditty@lemm.ee 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Damn dude nice that's basically a marathon! Impressive.

Thanks! Started off as a one-shot goal, but I'm now taking a look at multiple legs, starting from Sunday's turn-around point, in the near future.

Will be arranging a ride back for those future stops, though :)

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 6 months ago

By elbow hurt for no reason all week. First just slightly but now a bit more, specially in when I wake up.

[–] Worf@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Finally got sick of Reddit so I’m here now lol

Looking forward to connecting with you guys. I really enjoyed the “over30” series of subs and I feel like those are the ones I’ll miss the most.

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 2 points 6 months ago

Welcome! Let us know if you have any question, and don't hesitate to post in this community! The people are here but they don't post so much

[–] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Wow thanks for asking! Apparently I grabbed the wrong kind of contact solution because my eyes turned bright red this weekend after I started using it and are only slowly going back to normal. I'm a mental health crisis clinician and 100% thought I was going to listen to someone blow his own head off or get killed by the cops yesterday, but it ended up just being a bb gun and everyone turned out alive, so that was pretty great. (The outcome not the situation to begin with obviously) If you live in the USA call 988 for mental health emergencies!

[–] Servais@dormi.zone 2 points 6 months ago

Wow, good that you are doing well now!

[–] Pronell@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

A bit stressful but in a good way. Heading out of work early today to pick up someone who needs a place to stay.

I've got a spare bedroom, my wife and I have always talked about letting someone use it if needed... now it's time.

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

bah. its just work stuff. higher ups saying stuff and when I broke in to correct/clarify I got reprimanded later. Mostly annoyed because I have enough personal things that I like to make it a point to enjoy every second I can. Sorta a vicious cycle as then I get upset about being upset.

[–] Wes4Humanity@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Well sorry about the higher ups... Hopefully they heard you at least, even if they didn't like when/how you said it

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 1 points 6 months ago

thanks. appreciate the sentiment.

[–] JakenVeina@lemm.ee 2 points 6 months ago

Dishwasher's back together and has run 3 successful loads so far, so here's hoping the 6th time's the charm.

I am monstrously far behind on everything else, after dealing with that over the weekend, and then meetings on Monday and today.

Pikmin 2 has been fun, so far.

[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)
[–] Servais@dormi.zone 1 points 6 months ago

Good too, thanks!