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[-] underwire212@lemm.ee 103 points 5 months ago

In the moment, you’re not 100% certain the guy wanted to be on fire. The only thing you can do in this case at least is attempt to extinguish.

[-] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 31 points 5 months ago

I mean, if someone pours gasoline over his head and lights himself on fire, you can somewhat reasonably infer an intentionality.

[-] Devi@kbin.social 31 points 5 months ago

But we can say that with any suicide, if a guy stands on a bridge holding a rock tied to his leg then we will still try to save them because we understand they're going through something.

[-] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 3 points 5 months ago

That's not the question here. It's about intention, not your reaction.

Anyway, the equivalent here would be rather jumping after the guy to rescue him 2min after he jumped. You may endanger yourself and you might rescue a half-braindead shell of a person.

Don't kid yourself, besides talking him out of jumping, nobody would do anything.

[-] Devi@kbin.social 12 points 5 months ago

There's thousands of cases of people putting themselves in danger to try to save suicidal people, including jumping into deep bodies of water.

However, my point was on intention, someone committing suicide isn't right in the head so to say "well they did it on purpose so we shouldn't help" is silly.

[-] Rhaedas@fedia.io 5 points 5 months ago

Also many suicide failures have reportedly had second thought even right after they attempted, such as on the way off the bridge. All we can do is help them if possible, so that if there was regret they might be able to recover their life. The self immolation is a tough example because it's true that survival means a long road of pain, but I don't think we should try and draw lines to determine who should and shouldn't be saved (again, if possible). I'd also rather be hated by them for trying to help than to think that I could have done something but chose an easier route of inaction by mental justification.

[-] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 4 points 5 months ago

Again, that's not my point.

But again anyway, it's also silly to assume they're not right in the head. You don't know their situation. And it's even sillier to assume that I implied helping them would be wrong. Helping them while endangering yourself and making the situation for the other guy even worse is just stupid.

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[-] daltotron@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago

I mean we make an attempt to stop most suicides on the basis that they're pursued from a kind of irrational train of thought. This isn't to say that that's always actually the case, but we can't be sure of that, so most people wouldn't look at a guy jumping of a bridge and then say "hey do a flip on the way down", you know? We can kind of assume it's more of a last resort, than like a casual pastime or decision that you might just kinda make cause you kinda felt like it. That's just talking about the psychology of people who try to kill themselves mostly, though, for the vast majority it's as a last resort rather than due to a more "rational" reason, or, a more philosophically motivated reason.

It's a much safer assumption to assume they're irrational, anyways, for the same reason that capital punishment is not really a great idea. If you take the opposite as a blanket decision, it's irreversible. If you put out someone who's on fire, or otherwise save someone who's suicidal. you could always just kill them later.

They might have heavy regret once ignited, though.

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[-] towerful@programming.dev 47 points 5 months ago

I guess the options are:
Put them out and fix them.
Leave them alone.
Kill them more quickly.

Nobody is going to stand and watch (or even speed up) something like that without suffering massive trauma themselves.
Right or wrong, they were doing what they thought best and what I imagine most think is best.
Anything else is academical

[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 41 points 5 months ago

The presence of fire in a place not designed for it is a threat to the safety of others.

Maybe nobody was hurt, but if the authorities had neglected to put him out, and then someone WAS hurt, that would be on them. So, best to put him out. He can deal with the consequences of his actions.

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[-] unmagical@lemmy.ml 37 points 5 months ago

Obviously, the guy did not want to live.

I'm not sure we can make such a determination. Self immolation is traditionally a form of protest. One can sacrifice oneself for awareness even with a desire to go on living. It's not generally an escape attempt chosen when losing a battle with depression.

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[-] ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works 30 points 5 months ago

I put out all fires I see. If you want to die use inert gas.

[-] gmtom@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

You must be a real buzz kill at festivals and camping.

[-] cosmicrookie@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Nobody wants this guy around a campfire either.

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[-] aldalire@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 5 months ago

dark humor ahead

Just let the man cook

[-] NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 23 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

police were extinguishing the guy

Obviously, the guy did not want to live.

Human life is to be protected, rescued etc. in all cases.

We need to stay absolutely clear with that, because everything else creates terrible moral problems, for you and all the people around.

And if you want to start thinking such thoughts right there in a situation, it costs way too much valuable time.

Exceptions need to have very clear and very strict rulesThe whole society should agree with these rules. The responsible persons (doctors for example) need to be educated properly.

[-] folkrav@lemmy.ca 11 points 5 months ago

Human life is to be protected, rescued etc. in all cases.

Where does a DNR and medical assistance in dying fit in this?

[-] NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

There I would expect you to read also the other parts of my comment...

[-] folkrav@lemmy.ca 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Yes, but you also said it should be protected in “all cases” but went on about “exceptions”. Assistance in dying doesn’t fit this criteria that would make it acceptable as most definitely not everyone agrees with it. Some DNRs don’t either. The idea that the “whole society” needs to agree is also pretty disputable, and comes with its own set of moral issues. The question of professionals being “properly” trained on the matter as well (what does this mean?).

I just think it’s a lot more complex than “save everyone always”, and the exceptions aren’t that straightforward.

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[-] weariedfae@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I don't disagree with you entirely but there are some areas that do have defined societal rules where life saving is not the legal obligation. Now, this varies by state (some have samaritan laws) but many places you are not under a legal obligation to administer life saving aid. For example, providing CPR in areas considered medical backcountry.

I think it's already a mixed bag and the default position is not "protect/rescue human life in all cases" legally. Morally I would say it's a personal decision, I know I would most of the time in scenarios I can think of but obviously there are scenarios I can't think of.

My point is it's already murky and there are already exceptions.

Edit: actually the more that I think about it the more exceptions I can find your thesis. The first thing they teach you in First Aid/Cpr and the reason my entire class failed and we had to redo a 10 minute exercise to pass is that the #1 priority is your own safety. You have to secure the scene. If saving someone requires endangering yourself you are CLEARLY and unambiguously told to not attempt life saving aid until you can minimize or eliminate risks to yourself. Also see: Yellowstone hotspring rescue attempts, river rescue attempts, etc.

So again, nothing is clear and human life is not to be protected as a rule in "all" cases. EMS and police are not even obligated to save anyone in all cases.

[-] FuglyDuck@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

There are no Good Samaritan laws anywhere that require life saving aid.

They only go so far as to require that you alert emergency services; (though not every state goes that far.)

What Good Samaritan laws really do is provide protections as long as you’re stay to reasonable actions.

For example, it’s common for CPR to crack ribs. Without these protections, you’d be liable for that. (For the record, even if you do want to help; etc, always check to see if it’s safe first. Be selfish. You can’t save shit if you’re a body on the ground, too.)

[-] cybersin@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

Human life is to be protected, rescued etc. in all cases.

Exceptions need to have very clear and very strict rules

Bruh.

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[-] unreasonabro@lemmy.world 20 points 5 months ago

From what I understand, there is very little one can experience that's worse than being a full body burn victim. Whoever intervened did the man no favours.

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[-] Azzu@lemm.ee 20 points 5 months ago

It's pretty simple. If they didn't want to live, why didn't they self-immolate in a place where no one can put them out? By choosing a place with people they implicitly accepted that there might be people there that would try to not let them die. Maybe they even subconsciously hoped to be stopped.

Stopping physical harm happening to others is a very natural way of behavior. It's almost certain it happens when a couple of people are present. You can't ever blame someone for trying it.

And then there's the case of open fire being able to spread and hurt others.

[-] cosmicrookie@lemmy.world 18 points 5 months ago

This whole YouTube channel is filled with interviews of people, families and children making the best of lives many would feel not worth living. Even some failed suicide attempts leaving people with no face but some times better off than before

Its not up to the first reactors to decide if that life is worth living.

Although I feel that people should have the right to decide on their own if they want to live or not, they should be offered and given propped help before.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 17 points 5 months ago

I’m mixed, first responders shouldn’t decide what lives are worth living, but I also believe in the right to die.

[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 14 points 5 months ago

I think we all know how fire works. The moment they set themselves on fire, they'll be in excruciating pain. Doesn't mean it'll be a quick, or even certain death. If you put them out, you could be prolonging their pain, or you could be saving their life. And some things can't be undone. Just try to act in good faith...

[-] usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 12 points 5 months ago

That said, there's a big difference between 1 sec after the fire and 90 secs. There's definitely a tipping point where it's more humane to just let them die instead of hours later.

[-] Steve@startrek.website 7 points 5 months ago

Its not really possible for a human to make that decision in the moment. The only option is to try to save them.

[-] CallMeDave@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

I'll be a bit blunt, but at what point shall we leave some things to natural selection... Very often, those who set themselves on fire, die very soon after due to infections...

The bigger problem is, in this case, the inability of the system/society to recognise and deal with mental health issues on time or at all... About a quarter of Americans reported Mental health issues... In the EU only about 10% or less in countries with high social awareness...

So, I'd rather ask how to prevent those things happening in the future?

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[-] radiant_bloom@lemm.ee 13 points 5 months ago

You can’t be sure he wasn’t set on fire by someone else ! Plus he might have changed his mind, or extinguish on his own later than you’d have out him out, staying alive and suffering even more.

I’d maybe make an exception for someone calmly sitting as they burn, as I think the Buddhist monks who did this in China were. In those cases it’s pretty easy to see they wanted to be on fire.

But a flaming flailing guy needs to be extinguished, whatever the reason he is on fire.

[-] ATDA@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

I can certainly see the point.

However at least in America self immolation and self harm in general pretty well remove your autonomy based on the assumption you're not mentally well enough to make a choice either way.

Even then, if you look at the guy who just did it at Trump's trial and the guy who did it to protest Israel they were on two different levels of cohesion in their reasoning and came to the same decision.

So to answer your question, depends I guess.

[-] RegalPotoo@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

If you keep following this logic, this ends up in a pretty shitty ableist place.

If the person does survive they are going to have a pretty serious disability for the rest of their life - that would suck, but saying that we should let them die cos they'd be better off dead than disabled really devalues people who live with disabilities that they ended up with through bad luck.

[-] z00s@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

It's not about being disabled, it's about the horrendous amount of pain they'd be in

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[-] unreasonabro@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

the constant physical agony of a burn victim is outside the scope of your quaint little attempt to virtue signal and moralize, here, not to mention you're taking the man's choice away which the cadre you're appealing to would not approve of.

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[-] snooggums@midwest.social 10 points 5 months ago

If they have some way of indicating they do not wish to be resuscitated then putting them out is the wrong thing to do.

Otherwise it is hard to say. Fast enough and a lot of the suffering is avoided. Slow and there is a guarantee of suffering and likely death. Not a call I would want to make.

[-] Michal@programming.dev 6 points 5 months ago

Legally this is similar to euthanasia or abortion. The priority is to keep the person alive at all costs even if it means lifetime of suffering.

Morally... I mean the person did it to himself, i bet he's already suffering. While being ablaze he is a danger to others as pointed out in this thread, and a literal fire hazard. Their suffering (that they caused themselves) takes second priority after safety to others.

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