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No, I don't keep secrets from my partner. But we do hold each other's privacy as sacrosanct, which requires a balance. We are monogam-ish and currently want things to stay that way. When one wants monogamy, the implicit corollary is assumption of all responsibility for a partner's sexual satisfaction. The "mono" and "-ish" parts require maximum reasonable transparency, communication, and self-awareness so that we are all fulfilled and and informed.

Through a few decades of dating and many imploded relationships, I have found that being open with my partners is the surest way to get exactly what I want. And I'm seriously twisted and pervy.

I have a pregnancy fetish, but hate kids. Neither myself nor my fiance want them, so I'm just not going to mention it. She also has a medical condition that would make pregnancy difficult and dangerous

I don't think so? We're poly, so if I had a want/need that didn't interest her, it wouldn't be a big deal, I'd just find another partner for that.

Thankfully my wife likes attention on her feet.

Never. We always talked about what we liked and what was going to make it into the bedroom. We found things on both sides we weren’t comfortable with and things we were.

Yes

I had, but not anymore. This scenario you explained in your main post was actually similar and part of the reason I wanted a change in partner/go to my preferred style of relationship.

I think she might have a foot fetish, she has given me foot jobs before but honestly I’m just not into feet. She has also expressed wanting to sell feet pics after hearing how much some women make. I don’t have a foot fetish so I don’t know what dudes like but she has tan, size 9 feet that are very thin. She also has pretty big hands for her size I call them “alien hands” jokingly and has joked how I have a tiny little cock relative to the size of her hands, I think she knows I like being demeaned a little, it’s a huge turn on.

I’ve talked to her about how my fetish is women with super muscular legs that I just want to eat out while they are wrapped around my head. Like big, bulging, bodybuilder level legs. She said she thinks muscles that big are gross and I understand how it’s a fetish and not viewed as “normal”. Also, I like wearing thongs but that’s part comfort and functionality and part a fetish, she sees me wearing thongs from MeUndies, but I also had an ex that had me wear her Victoria’s Secret g strings and panties and by god they were so silky smooth and comfy.

I don't have a partner, but yes I would, unless I was sure they were also into it.

When I'm in a relationship, usually I can figure out if they would, would consider, or would be against stuff that I may like/want and that determines whether or not I bring it up.

If it's not a critical desire than I don't mind just going without. There's nothing I would really consider "out there" that I find a critical need for with that stuff anyway. It's usually just a bonus if they also enjoy the same things I do.