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I'm looking for any examples that you might have encountered and links to them.

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[–] wise_pancake@lemmy.ca 41 points 8 months ago (4 children)

This one, that I just started.

The commenter after me ties their shoelaces very well, and I’m jealous.

[–] actionjbone@sh.itjust.works 29 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Thank you very much. It took a lot of practice to learn to do it so well.

[–] Nunya@lemdro.id 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I initially joined this conversation to say that there would be no way for anyone to deserve such a great shoe tying complement, but after researching your abilities I must say that I stand corrected. Bravo on your fantastic ability.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.ca 15 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Folks, he’s not kidding. They really have a knack for lacing foot apparel. I’m in awe.

[–] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 2 points 8 months ago

Narrator: "They did."

[–] sqw@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

i learned a new shoe-tying technique and try to share it with others when they’re game

[–] Extrasvhx9he@lemmy.today 8 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I'm all ears. I usually just tie mine like a regular square knot

[–] metaStatic@kbin.social 9 points 8 months ago

do the final cross in the opposite direction and they will never accidentally come undone

[–] sqw@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] thrawn@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

I’ve used this for years but I have a pretty high rate of asymmetry. It’s still a lot quicker to just quickly fix that than do it the way I was taught so I keep doing it.

Maybe I should practice doing it symmetrically instead of assuming I will always lopside it though

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 8 months ago

Ian's Shoelace Site, baby!! I was doing granny knots for years before I found him.

[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 8 months ago

There's actual a great, short TED talk on tying shoes and the strong form of the typical knot used.

[–] Gabu@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

Nobody cares, fuck you /s

[–] cleanandsunny@literature.cafe 10 points 8 months ago

People seemed to appreciate the conversation in this thread about balancing privacy with the realities of wedding business marketing: https://lemmy.ml/post/7435311

[–] actionjbone@sh.itjust.works 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Styleforum has plenty. For example, people congratulating each other on thrift store finds or helping each other learn about shoe care.

[–] Danterious@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Do you have a link to a specific post that you think shows this well?

[–] actionjbone@sh.itjust.works 4 points 8 months ago

Not a specific post, but if you browse around there, you'll find one pretty early.

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 8 points 8 months ago (2 children)

You can peruse my history. I ask a lot of clarifying questions to understand what people mean before I criticize their position.

[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Do you ever get burned out on people not starting out in good faith? Like I used to enjoy back and forth, but a while ago I gave up because the majority are super defensive instead of inquisitive.

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 3 points 8 months ago

That's exactly why I ask clarifying questions.

Bad faith arguers usually won't answer a question because then they'd have to reveal they're arguing in bad faith. But that ends up being the tell anyway.

There was a recent instance where I asked someone if they really supported free speech, which they arguing for in response to a Canadian policy that would criminalize calling for genocide. Really supporting free speech meant permitting calls for genocide against a group that included them.

They never answeres the question about whether they supported calls for genocide that might include them. I asked them twice.

In that case, it's easy enough to just stop responding to anything they say. They've outed themselves by not participating in the conversation.

[–] Danterious@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Anything you are particularly proud of?

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 5 points 8 months ago

Uhhh not really

[–] fiat_lux@kbin.social 6 points 8 months ago

I had this one the other day, and it was even political

https://sh.itjust.works/comment/9636567

[–] muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Not my comment history i spend a lot of time arguing with people.

I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

[–] peepee_longstonking@lemmy.whynotdrs.org 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'd say even arguing, so long as it's in good faith is healthy online conversation.

What makes a conversation unhealthy exactly? I'd say mostly things like

  • not arguing in good faith (common from the right wing)

  • not respecting other commenters perspectives

  • insulting others

  • calling them liars without evidence

  • tribalism and group think

  • getting unnecessarily heated

  • needing the last word

  • ganging up on people

[–] muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

I have a tendancy to call people cunts. Idk why the americans get so mad abt it for me its just a common greeting.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

Ur wrong and smelly.

[–] muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Your mother is a hamster and your father smelt of elderberry.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 0 points 8 months ago

And you're slower than a glass of molasses in the middle of a Canadian winter.

[–] z00s@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Why, OP? What do you need them for?

[–] Nikls94@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Actually, a lot of conversations here are quite healthy imho. Outside of meme-communities that is. Sometimes I’m on Reddit because on here there’s not really a flashlight πŸ”¦ community. ~~People~~ comments over there used to be constructive, sometimes obviously satirical - now there’s just trolls and mean people.

Edit: made the ~ to ~~

[–] Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 2 points 8 months ago

I see posts on 'all' from a flashlight community fairly regularly on here, but I just lurk because I don't think my Lepro is up to their standards.

[–] thanks_shakey_snake@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 months ago

Double tilde (~~) for strikethrough, friend.

~People~ vs. ~~People~~

[–] Servais@reddthat.com 3 points 8 months ago
[–] actual_patience@programming.dev 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

https://feddit.de/comment/8071252 https://infosec.pub/comment/5269310 https://programming.dev/comment/5789966

These are just some random threads I saved. As others have pointed out, niche communities are (usually) the least toxic. Applies to any site or chatroom.

[–] actual_patience@programming.dev 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Hi there! Looks like you linked to a Lemmy community using a URL instead of its name, which doesn't work well for people on different instances. Try fixing it like this: !bestoflemmy@lemmy.world