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Listitems I have felt at least once before finding this: 7/8 Listitems I have known the name of before finding this: 0/8
How about you?
Also... what's the feeling called when reading something, thinking 'that sounds totally made up' - then doing a quick google and realizing its actually a thing?
I love this.
It’s one of my passing hobbies to look up word lists like this - some of them are beautiful, and there’s something really satisfying about knowing this obscure and weird thing you’re experiencing is at least “normal” enough to have its own name.
Then I promptly forget, which is annoying, bit also means I get to discover them all over again a few months later.
On this list I can easily identify with 7/8 too
Other words you might appreciate:
Routineer: one that adheres to or insists on routine
Fika: a moment to slow down and appreciate the little things in life
Philocalist: lover of beauty; someone who finds beauty in all things
Querencia: a sanctuary where you feel safe …or even better, Snuggery: a cozy room
Fleshment: excitement associated with a successful beginning (we won’t talk about finishing the project)
Acatalepsy: the idea that it is impossible to truly comprehend anything
I never heard philocalist before. That one sure can be a double edge sword.
Here's one I feel and enjoy but have a hard time explaining to people who don't experience it, and have no word for:
The sense of potential that comes with being alone in a normally-crowded space.
Like walking the halls of an empty hotel during or right before a convention, when nobody is there yet (or awake yet, or awake still), and there's this electric sense of anticipation, potential... It's not quite excitement or enthusiasm, maybe you don't actually care about what's going to go on in that space at all, except that you know something is but not yet and that has an energy all its own.
Liminal spaces. You should look up the backrooms.
I think I saw a video game about that once but I'm not sure I understand how to follow that particular rabbit hole any deeper. Help me out here?
I know about the game. It's not the best entrance to that particular rabbit hole.
http://backrooms-wiki.wikidot.com/
It's a collaborative writing project - like the SCP Foundation.
I feel something like that on big streets in the night.
Normally there are trucks and cars and everything is loud.
But 2am in the week:
The only thing on the streets are you, a few puddles from the last rain and the very occasional stray car or moped far away.
And, yeah, I think in that moment I can relate to your feel.
Exactly this!
Now that I think about it in depth, I for myself (got PDA) would retroactively interpret the feeling as:
A feeling of autonomy in a place you normally don't have any.
With masking in mind we could also interpret it as:
A place where you are used to mask, but now are free to be yourself because nobody is around to judge you
On the other hand it may be something not-neurodivergent at all (how should I know), or maybe it's a combination of a general feeling everyone has with above stated reasons on top.
One is not like the others. "Mauerbauertraurigkeit" is a German word, what the fuck.
Basic translation would be "Sadness of the wall builder" (Mauer = Wall, Bauer = Builder, Traurigkeit = Sadness). Didn't expect that right there, maybe it's something similar to Schadenfreude?
Actual translation would be "Wall-creating sadness". Going by the definition, it's the sadness that builds the wall. But I admit that the word in isolation could also be interpreted your way.
I'm Austrian, German is my mother language. So I got a good idea what it means :)
I'd interpret it that the person builds walls and then is sad about it afterwards because it pushes people away. Which happens often, you're not in the mood to hang out with friends, you don't like making plans, you're annoyed.. and at some point they won't invite you again. Then you're sad about being lonely.
I'm German, too. From Germany.
And I disagree with your interpretation regarding cause and effect. First the sadness exists - you can also call it social burnout or depression. Second the feeling of being drained causes you to cancel stuff, for reasons you make up - causing you to be even more depressed in the long term. A feedback loop.
We're talking about two different things. Both fit the definition above.
These are real?
8/8. The bookstore one is super specific but i once tried jumping out of a car to save a book when i was a child, my mind shouted "but books are knowledge!" as I opened the door. Never heard of any of these before.
8/8. Do I get a prize? Is AuDhd the prize? Cuz then I’d like a refund, please.
Seriously, this is beautiful though. I love language so much!
Thalasin+ vibes
I don't need pills for those.
...also had to look up what that even was, and... uuuuuuuuugh. Do not want to go on that trip.
This list is so good. I have the first 4 and rubatosis. Also Germans strike again with their extra long words! (Mauerbauertraurigkeit) A second thought, I think I have all but last one.
I thought I had lachesism as a kid (not that I knew the word), turns out it was just dysphoria. But otherwise I've felt all of these except rubatosis, while I can be aware of my heartbeat I've never been unsettled by it though.