"Not Safe For Life"
There's worse things on the net than dodgy porn
this post was submitted on 24 Jun 2023
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I'm trying to create a healthy porn community on lemmy. And the hostility of lemmy towards it is worrisome in my opinion. People are calling for de-federating lemmynsfw, people file false reports on my NSFW-only communities, the majority of instances ban porn,…
IMHO, there should be only two tags "NSFW", "NSFL". (= Not Safe For Life, meaning gore) There was this running-joke on reddit last year "when I was younger 'NSFW' on /r/all meant boobs, now it's most likely a video of a bomb being dropped from a drone blowing up russian soldiers."
I don't think we should rate the degree of NSFW or NSFL. Where is the line? I assume a topless lady is NSFW, not porn. But is a fully nude woman or man NSFW, or porn? If it's still "just" NSFW, what about two fully naked men holding each other penises? Or a woman on her knees looking at a penis without touching it, with her mouse open? This is a very fine line.
I'm in favour of most european broadcasting laws: visible nipples are fine as long as they're not sexuality, but "16" or "18" rating is recommended. Visible anus, vulva or penis makes "18/Unrated" mandatory, whether there is intercourse or not.
I would translate this to lemmy to "anything with nipples, anus, vulva or penis visible is NSFW, regardless of intercourse" No grading of "NSFW" or "porn."
I agree that the de-federation and attitude is worrysome, but I disagree on your stance towards more tags. Servers that disallow NSFW now, might choose to allow NSFW but not porn. Servers that allow NSFW now, are likely to keep allowing both. Servers just don't want to deal with liability and weird protocol quirks showing people stuff they don't want, so they'll ban any category that's likely to include stuff they don't want. More fine-grained tagging means they can ban a smaller selection of things.
I'm all for various kinds of tags to indicate why someone might not want to view certain content.
Exactly this. Regardless if it's softcore or hardcore, porn or lewd is nsfw. I don't mind that stuff at home, but even blurred out images I don't want my coworkers walking by.
NSFL stuff I generally never want to see, at least not as someone I randomly scroll by
Don't get me wrong, I think there should be porn on lemmy. It's great. I just don't want to get kicked out of the library. Or have a situation where I'm on the train/bus and some toddler is in the seat behind me looking over my shoulder. Edit: yeah probably should block any nsfw in the latter scenario
Nobody is jacking off to that. Never subestimes nobody.
Challenge accepte... Wait what?
Agreed. I don't want all that mildly NSFW content when I'm scrolling porn.
That happened to me once. I was using the random NSFW server feature on Boost when I stumbled upon some headless dude
Made me smile. Thanks
Simple, [Content Warning Tag]-(User Description Of Content Warning)
I'm thinking that having a generic "NSFW" flag and then a bunch of different tags you could use as modifiers would be better. "NSFW" would trigger the "blur/hide/whatever this" code, and you could filter based on #porn, #gore, #semprini, whatever, for the specific kind of stuff you're interested in/not interested in.
I'm very defensive when it comes to NSFW. But I think "NSFW flag with mandatory reason from a drop down" (e.g. nudity, sex, violence, gore, explicit-language) is the best solution which satisfy both. That is actually a great idea.
Just a UX nitpick: a drop down is usally for a single choice question but this should be multiple choice to avoid unintentional mislabeling.
I agree. A thing can be sensitive content for more than one reason at the same time.
Agreed.
I feel like a pink "XXX" tag would suffice.
Where is the line between NSFW and XXX?
Nudity? Which nudity? Are nipples NSFW but vulva is XXX?
Multiple people being nude at the same? A photo of a guy holding his penis to masturbate is NSFW, but a photo of a nudist beach is XXX?
Sexual contact? A person is kneeling in front of a penis with their mouth open it's NSFW? But as soon as they hold it, it's XXX?
NSFW = nipple.
XXX = nipple with cum on it.
GORE = nipple on the floor, separated from its human.
It's pretty simple bro.
Mastodon has a system of user-definable Content Warnings that hide the rest of the post and any media attached. Due to just how broad NSFW can be something like this may be a good idea. Maybe you're ok with nudity, but not porn. Maybe you're ok with porn but not (certain act/fetish/whatever). Maybe you're ok with violence, but not dead bodies. Lots to think about there. Defining all of these in advance or trying to come up with categories such that it is actually useful to everyone sounds like a path to madness and fetishes you never even knew existed.
These can also be used for things that aren't necessarily NSFW, but also uncomfortable topics such as "miscarriage", "cheating", or even just "spoilers for ". They're pretty versatile.
I think being able to block entire instances as users will solve this issue.
I would rather see gore have its own tag before porno, personally. I don't mind getting smut in my feed, but I'd rather not see a corpse/someone die in the same feed/category as nudity.
Honestly, multiple nsfw categories would be great
We already have NSFL
Interesting, I'm still pretty new here, and I've only seen nsfw so far