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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/caribbean_swimmer on 2023-08-07 16:21:11.


My(29M) have been living with with my boyfriend (24M) for a year, but I have been living at that place for about 4 years now.

During this time I had some problems with my next door neighbor (a lady who lives alone and is between 70 and 80 years old).

However, last week we had a more delicate situation. It was Thursday and around 1pm (a time when I usually wouldn't be home) I had a worker fixing some things in my yard, so he was making a reasonable amount of noise. That day I had not parked my car in the garage and was working from home in my living room looking down the street. When I looked up I saw my neighbor peeking into my house, noticing that my car was not there and running in shouting things at my worker (how was it possible that he was making noise, that she was trying to sleep, that he was not polite, that he was shameless, bla bla).

When I realized this situation, I ran out to where she was and yelled at her (what do you think you are doing?) to which she turns around and starts yelling at me (all this inside my property). I start to get upset and tell her: I don't care about your point of view, it's 1 o'clock in the afternoon, get off my property or I will call the police. She kept yelling at me and saying that I had to be quite because she was an old lady.

My boyfriend heard all the commotion and came out to see what was going on. She turned to look at my boyfriend, turned to look at me and said, "Now I get it, you're a couple of s** f**s. That's why you think you can argue with me. Now I get it, you are just a couple of fa***s.” To which I took out my cell phone, started recording and replied: "Repeat again what you just said.” And she, with all certainty, repeated it. Adding that we were going to hell and that God was going to punish us.

It is worth mentioning that I am a lawyer, so I warned her that if she continued like that there would be legal consequences. She finally got off my property and went home. I went back to mine and with the anger I had at the time, I drafted and filed a discrimination and trespassing complaint against my neighbor. I was about to upload the video to social media but my boyfriend (rightfully so) stopped me from doing it.

Now, a week after the incident, I have been notified that my complaint has been accepted. My boyfriend and my friends are telling me that I took things too far by suing her, but I still believe that it is only the consequences of her own actions, her comments were homophobic and very offensive.

AITA for filing a lawsuit against her?

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[–] CamelliaCadabra@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

No, NTA. Good on you for defending yourself and working to stop hateful behavior before it got worse.