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[–] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 year ago

I'm asexual but I'm usually asking "why" rather than "what". Like, "dear gods why?"

[–] CreamyWeenie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Alright this probably isn't the right place to ask this, and I fear I'm about to start a shitstorm, but what is the actual difference between bisexual and pansexual? As far as my own understanding goes it's just semantics and they really mean the same thing, but if I'm wrong I'd love to be corrected. I feel I should clarify I do not care if you prefer to use pansexual over bisexual or vice versa, whatever makes you happy I'm cool with, just genuine curiosity here.

[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

I call myself bi because I am attracted to many genders&body types but not all; a few combinations of gender expression and body features don't work for me.

The people I know who are pan say something like "I'm attracted to people's personalities and character, the body is irrelevant". While that's a pretty inspiring way to be, that ain't me.

There isn't really a good term for people like me that has a good etymology imo, but bi is closest.

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

As a Trans Women/Enby Pan person here, some people try to set up "rules" for the distinction but it's kinda just a vague vibes thing. The general theme is that Pansexuals are on average attracted to a wider range of people than Bisexuals. But contrary to what some people think bisexual is not limited to the binary genders. Honestly this could also be said for most identities, it's just what label you choose to call yourself.

For instance, I call myself Pansexual because not only do I like both genders (though I lean towards women), androgynous people specifically get to me. It's like both sides of my sexuality light up at the same time.

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Straight Boys: "Why are all the hot girls lesbians?"

Joking aside, literally happened to me, fantasized about being in a lesbian relationship, and being sad that would be impossible. It's absurd it took so long for me to recognize being trans.

[–] Jimbo@yiffit.net 4 points 1 year ago