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I see fan-art or scenes of a woman using her chest as basically a pillow for someone. It's cute and all, but I can't help think if that hurts for the woman, especially if her breasts are large?

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 60 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You really want the ribs to do most of the supporting of your head.

If she just flopped it on the table and you set your head on it, it would definitely not be comfortable for her.

[–] TowardsTheFuture@lemmy.zip 45 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The mental image of that really got me thanks.

[–] 4am@lemmy.world 29 points 11 months ago (2 children)

The thunk and all the silverware and glasses rattling lol

[–] match@pawb.social 8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

The thunk on the table. The screech of shattering wood as the table legs splinter. The chiming-scream of windows blowing out

[–] BrazenSigilos@ttrpg.network 12 points 11 months ago

TURN DOWN FOR WHAT

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 8 points 11 months ago

you rag-dolling through the air on the Shockwave and faintly, through the ringing of busted ear drums can be heard the refrain "everybody needs a bosom for a pillow... everybody needs a bosom..."

[–] GoosLife@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Mom and Dad staring incredulously as family dinner takes a very unexpected turn.

[–] Devi@kbin.social 39 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I need a photo of what you mean. Someone snuggling into your chest wouldn't hurt, but as Rhynoplaz says, if you plopped on a table then any weight on it would really hurt.

[–] UnRelatedBurner@sh.itjust.works 31 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This gives me "what are tits? I'm a visual learner btw" vibes.

[–] Devi@kbin.social 33 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Haha, I'm a woman, if I want to see some then I have easy access

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 11 points 11 months ago
[–] DJSpunTheDisc@lemmy.world 17 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I rushed to Pinterest and I think this is a good example, which I think falls into your first example?

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 16 points 11 months ago

Can confirm, that doesn't hurt. If anything I'd be more concerned about the weight on the abdomen and ribcage, if he falls asleep for example that dead weight is more likely to become a nuisance for breathing. But not for the breasts

[–] Devi@kbin.social 16 points 11 months ago

Oh yeah, that wouldn't hurt at all

[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 32 points 11 months ago (2 children)

There is a great deal of variety to breast sensitivity from one person to another. The same act might be pleasant, neutral or painful depending on the person. Even then, there are good and bad kinds of pain.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Also I’d imagine it varies day to day.

I’m a man but I have some days I can’t even pick up a glass of water without sharp pain everywhere I’m making contact. Other days my flesh is way less sensitive.

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee 8 points 11 months ago

Odd phrasing, it isn't being a man that gives that sensation experience, it's some undisclosed condition. Whatever it is sounds very challenging.

[–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Some of us even have difference in sensitivity from one side to the other.

[–] Shelbyeileen@lemmy.world 25 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I am a G or H and honestly, they're so big that I choke anyone who tries to use them as a pillow.

At first I thought you were asking if I've used them as a pillow for myself, and I have, as a chin pillow. Isn't comfy at all, though 😅

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 15 points 11 months ago

This is an extremely relevant contribution.

[–] pendulum_@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago

...I'll be in my bunk.

[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 20 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It’s really more supporting your head on their ribs between their breasts.

Girls never understand how calming and relaxing that is for some reason.

Might be better to say mine didn’t.

A high physical affection person with a low one makes for an awkward and anxious relationship.

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If you've never read up on "attachment styles," I found that concept to be extremely helpful. There's a book called Attached: The New Science of Adult Dating that I found great, despite feeling a bit silly over the title.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It seems like they're alluding to "love languages", but I believe attachment styles are something else

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 3 points 11 months ago

It's similar, but not quite the same. For example, an avoidant attachment style will tend to avoid getting close, an anxious attachment style will fear being abandoned. Put them together and you get a constant cycle of the anxious person drawing close to the avoidant person. The avoidant person pulls away. The anxious person eventually gets wounded. Now the avoidant person turns on the love mode to draw them back in. Rinse and repeat. It's awful.

That's a simplified version. But that's the basic gist. It's how you operate in relationships from a fundamental level, more than what makes you feel loved.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 11 months ago

Cradling someone's head is fine, even comfortable.

I find it uncomfortable to lay on my stomach though. That pressure feels different

[–] HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social 11 points 11 months ago

When they were growing in it would have. Even laying down felt like getting knives in the nipples. It's fine for me now, though.

[–] clockwork_octopus@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Usually that doesn’t hurt, but that doesn’t mean that it never hurts. Really it depends on how sensitive they are, or if there are underlying issues (like cysts deep inside the tissue, maybe) that would make pressure on them very uncomfortable, or downright painful.

[–] 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

I think my xes appreciate not using them as a pillow... though they might not appreciate other things.