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A collection of some classic Lemmy memes for your enjoyment
There are people whose entire modus operandi is to not give a shit about others in their choices and actions, apologize when challenged about it and carry on doing the same.
Their "apologizing" is just a confrontation-avoidance technique, not a genuine expression of regret.
Oh you've met my "supervisor" Dave?
Why is "supervisor" in quotes? You'd know if you knew Dave.
*than
My dad would always say "don't say sorry, DO sorry". The apology will be present in your words and actions.
Wholesome Omniman weirds me out.
Why?
This part was so well done. Building up the speedster as someone that experiences time at an accelerated rate compared to humans then showing this where 2 seconds must have been like years of agony for him.
Really tragic and brutal.
Have you seen the show?
Have you read the comics? I have both seen the show and read the comics. If you have just seen the show it might be strange but when the show gets to the end or if you read the comics it makes sense. It's not as strange after all.
And in that statement you've answered your first question
That's why I never apologize!
"I'm sorry, that's just the way I am!"
"I know what I am" - princess pony head
There are three critical parts to an apology. You have to feel regret/remorse, accept guilt and make an effort to correct it/make sure it never happens again.
If all three aren't present every time then someone isn't sorry. If they say sorry and don't make it right or make reasonable actions to ensure it doesn't happen again then they are a liar and poor company to keep.
Could have picked a better father...
A better father also wouldn't mix up "then" and "than"
I didn't even notice that smh my head
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That's what I teach my kids. If you apologize and do it again it doesn't count as an apology. An apology is a promise to do better next time.
I think that's just one notch above what's necessary.
An apology is a promise to [try to] do better next time.
You might fail again, but it doesn't mean you did the wrong thing, necessarily. But if you didn't even try, then 🖕🖕
Yeah, as a kid I had serious struggles with certain things and my parents eventually started getting angry at my apologies. That was a parenting decision of theirs that went quite poorly for me.
parenting decision of theirs
What do you mean their decision was? Did they make you promise to do better next time? Curious, as I'm a parent. 😅
Not believing that I was trying to do better. I was suffering from adhd (diagnosed) and depression symptoms so my tripping points were largely in my own head.
The fact is they didn't know how to help. The fact is I was a teenager going through shit I didn't have the words for. We were all lost and confused. But like clockwork every report card came with a lecture to the point of me sobbing, swearing I'd do better, and eventually self harming to make it stop. But I'd be told that I had meds so I can't blame my mental illness, and my parents had it too and no meds so they know I'm able to do it. Eventually my father got to the point of loudly giving up on me every semester.
Idk if that helps, but yeah, it was bad enough that as an adult I've had a few full on flashbacks to that time, and had to spend quite a bit of effort on healing from it.
Yeah, this kept tripping me up. I tried to be better but was always falling short and kept getting called out on promises not fulfilled. So I just stopped apologizing.
What I'm trying to say is, if a kid keeps failing to deliver on those promises constantly the parent might need to make a change in there. If not then all is dandy.
I tried teaching my mom that and that did not go well.
What about paying a small fine which is a fraction of the profits you made from the crime?
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That depends on how small a fraction of the profits are paid, smaller fraction = more sorry.
the way I've always put it is you have an idea of who you want to be and you have to work to be that person every day and it's okay to fall it's okay to fail but it's important that you keep trying.
I really like this perspective, thanks for sharing!
This is true, but unfortunately, some people dont understand this and think an apology is a 'get out of jail free' card to do whatever they want, and no one can get mad at them.
Likewise, if someone genuinely apologizes and tries to make it right, stop shitting on them. Too many people view apologies as weakness and admitting fault for events that are sometimes out of your hands.
You're right, I should have mentioned I am referring to the same repeated bad behavior and people who keep apologizing for it again and again as if that makes it all better, rather than making meaningful change. An apology is meaningless without action to back it up.
And you bet that forgiveness benefits you the most. It doesn't. If someone says sorry rarely, never changes, and you are taught to keep being compassionate... you are going to lose your ability to care about people. Better to stay alert, because that person will hurt you again.
think an apology is a 'get out of jail free'
Well, 'forgive' and 'forget' aren't the same. ;-)
I don't think this meme format is adequate for the contents...
On the contrary, one of my favorite meme mutations is the subversion of the intent of the original media or meme itself. Like the "can you please call HR", "hello human resources" one. Or bonehurtingjuice on the whole.
Unless you work in a customer facing role......then you throw out apologies all over the place to calm people down. Never need to act on the apology. Just need to get through the shift. Management isn't going to change the structures that cause the poor experience anyway.
I used to do that, but I stopped because I’m trying to be less of a people-pleasing doormat in general. Plus people don’t like empty apologies from company reps anyway.. it often led to more hostility. Apologizing also tends to give to the impression that they are right to be pissy whiny assholes, which isn’t something that should be encouraged at all.
Instead, I started saying “I very much understand your frustration; let’s see what we can do to get this resolved for you.” This makes you and the customer (psychologically) a team against the problem, and they are less likely to go off on you.
I definitely stole that tactic from car salespeople. And it works super well.
LOOK WHAT THEY NEED TO MIMIC A FRACTION OF OUR APOLOGIES
That's the neat part!
Assuming we're talking about a friend/acquaintance, a person can be genuinely sorry but sort of be too dim to meaningfully improve their behavior. That said, if they don't at least give a good faith effort to improve then my patience will wear thin and I'll probably want to be around them as little as possible, even if I end up ultimately forgiving them on the emotional side of things.