Chronicle the life and tale of the fediverse (+ matrix)
Largely a sublemmy about capturing drama, from fediverse spanning drama to just lemmy drama.
Includes lore like how a instance got it's name, how an instance got defederated, how an admin got doxxed, fedihistory etc
(New) This sub's intentions is to an archive/newspaper, as in preferably don't get into fights with each other or the ppl featured in the drama
Tags: fediverse news, lemmy news, lemmyverse
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One of my first experiences on Lemmy was a bunch of mens rights activists celebrating a women's tech job fair being overrun by men.
I'm not surprised that this is a problem. Lemmy's main demographic is the tech obsessed, that's always going to be filled with misogynistic neckbeards.
the tech obsessed, that’s always going to be filled with misogynistic neckbeards.
Generalizations are hateful.
Back when I used Reddit, one of my favorite subs was TrollX. If we had a sub with that spirit, it would be a good start.
Are there secret communities on Lemmy? Not that secret communities should be a default, but I was invited to a secret sub on Reddit years ago that was all women. It was a true safe space from harrassment, where we could talk about feminine things that we knew wouldn’t gain traction in main subs. I have no idea how it started, but I knew that users who were invited to join had previously been vetted by the sub’s mods - they saw that I’d made feminist posts and multiple comments about being a woman, and didn’t go around picking fights. It was like a background check.
I don’t believe there is any one solution, but starting with dedicated communities (in the spirit of TrollX), with mods that smack down misogyny and (actual) trolls, sounds like the best way to start.
Yeah private communities on Reddit are an actual delight. /r/centuryclub was an unexpectedly fun community to be a part of. I kinda miss the memeing that went on in intro posts on there.
Let's get away from the "X chromosome" bit now that we're not stuck with Reddit's bad names
It doesn’t need to be called the same thing.
I’m also not sure if it matters, but Troll X and Two X Chromosomes were very different subs. Troll X was more of a spin-off, and was never strictly for XX women - it was trans-inclusive by default. That’s what I’m hoping for here too.
Neither was twoxx arent many of the mods trans? Or is that a lie ppl say, I've seen that said a lot on redit
I was on trollx and it was a nice community. A community with a name derived from two X chromosomes will never be fully trans inclusive though.
Thanks for the enlightening thread. And that puts a dampener on the enthusiasm that I was feeling for this place. Not that I should be surprised or anything.
I might misunderstand how things work here but it sounds to me like if entire communities are getting bombed by downvotes, then it's the various admins across instances that are allowing this to happen. And it puts a bit of a dark cloud over this place now for me.
Blahaj.zone has disabled downvotes, so at least that part can't be weaponised against folk on our instance.
As for the rest of it, yeah, lemmy is better than reddit, but it did get a lot of users from reddit, so its still closer to reddit culture than I'd like. But, it's also got a lot of better aspects than reddit ever did, and hopefully that trend will continue
One of our admins was banning people if they saw you only downvoting. This place is so much better than reddit, that growing pains are fine with me.
Hello the based dept called they want to speak to that admin
Another issue that's starting to pop up in "inclusive" communities that don't have active enough mods and admins is users had to start policing their own spaces, and then the admins get upset with the vitriol directed at the trolls and force the community to repsect the trolls and wait until the reports eventually get through.
Yup, that's a problem. Specially because, once the gender ratio gets too skewed towards one side (it is), the Petrie multiplier kicks in; then the sexism targets each woman more and more frequently.
Potential solutions that I see for the problem:
The admins could try banning sexist men, but that'll never happen
The admins of what? There is no singular "admins" of the Fediverse. That's kind of the whole point.
I understood "the admins" as "a meaningfully large amount of the admin teams of the Fediverse". Collective action.
I think that it would be a good start. But only a start; sexism is a social problem, so even if you ban the individuals saying sexist stuff, you still see sexism elsewhere.
And even if you ban overtly sexist users, others will keep:
etc.
That's still aggravating, you know? You can't pinpoint why but it still makes you feel unwelcome.
It's especially jarring coming from Mastodon, which is broadly more diverse than Lemmy. I've witnessed some really questionable comments here during the last year. I really hope something can be done to improve things. I think a feminist-specific instance might be the best option, much in the way someplace like Hexbear has managed to create a fairly strong community bloc with strong core beliefs.
Sadly hexbear doesn't have a ton of really active comms specific to women. Though at least they're very aggressive removing misogyny across the instance. It's been categorically less stressful posting on hexbear vs the rest of lemmy simply because I'm not then checking an inbox with replies/dms calling me 'removed' or 'it' or other charming insults.
Removing downvotes makes sense too, though I also like keeping them and using them to ban people abusing it. The voter is only visible to admins though.
Not good. We need Lemmy and the fediverse represent all people as a whole if er hope to become the standard backbone of internet communication.
It seems to be one of the problems where Lemmy feeling a bit like old Reddit is really, really bad. Remembering from back then, it took many years of concerted effort and dedicated subreddits attacking sexism (that were in turn harassed and hated on by the "mainstream" Reddit audience, like SRS for example) to slowly change the culture. And it's not like Reddit is some sort of safe haven even now.
Tbf, i wouldn't recommend Lemmy to anyone i know either for more reasons including this